Alright, my turn! And yes, I am a little bit up there thanks to my bubbler Mr. D. Camo, featured below, so bare with me please, lol. This will be lengthy.
Fetishes - where do you think yours come from, if you have any
Roleplay/uniforms; probably porn and being on the asexual spectrum, read aegosexual and demisexual. Some degree of voyeurism, perhaps if I have formed an emotional connection with watching a particular grouping. Also oral, though do not like cum. I literally just like playing with dicks, so being mushroomed, slapped around by a dick, etc. Though probably not necessarily at that level, I consider my desire for horseplaying/lounging nude w/other guys a fetish at this point as I missed out on having close male relationships young, so have never really been uninhibited w/other guys. Strip Poker too; its the undressing as a fun punishment.
Sexual activities you'd like to try at least once and why
Bottoming for a big-dicked little person/topping a bound jock/dominant top; definitely a power control thing. Threesome and DP, all roles; my switchy tendency fulfilled with min no. of people. Topping a guy sucking himself off; closest to the "Holy Grail" I'll ever get, though most who can do not speaking highly of it. The idea still persists, however, so remains untarnished as a fantasy, probably never an actuality tho. Once I find a tantric sex partner, I think that will become the new norm for me.
Music during sex?
Theoretically, yes. However, I associate music with dance, and both of those with pleasure, but not necessarily sex (see last comment). If part of roleplay, like being a goth rocker or cheering in the background as an opposing quarterback in a jock/jock scenario; but as far as just during sex, that kinda requires a more intimate relationship for me that I have not yet reached with anybody.
TV shows that had the greatest impact on how you envisioned/envision your life/etc.
I grew up on old tv, so Cheers, Amen, Three's Company, my favorite Happy Days (Fonzie and Richie, yum), etc., but That 70's show, Friends, and X-Files had the biggest effect. I imagined my HS days would be like the 70's show, my college life to be similar to Friends, and life thereafter like X-Files. Despite a hate/hate relationship with the federal anything, I would so run such a department like X-Files. And to some degree, I still want to create my own Mystery Gang (Scooby Doo). I love visiting supposedly haunted locations and ghost cities, really want to have a mystery dinner, and wished I had my own Midnight Society (Are You Afraid of the Dark) growing up.
Top 3 favorited porn stars, if you have any:
Hmm, I've never really had a ranking, but, and in no particular order, the names that come to mind, and sorry more than 3, are Python, Red, June, Tiger Tyson, Bobby Blake and Cliff Jensen; pretty much anything with them is sure to get the job done.
Choice in underwear and why.
Hmm, forgot to add this to the list of fetishes, but will just keep it this way as it, my longest lasting fetish, does not really reach that level anymore since I realized I was a nudist in 2018. Before then, friends were surprised when I moved that my underwear collection used to take up two military duffels, and I do mean the larger duffels. I would choose, now, jocks, "ranger panties", briefs, and sometimes trunks, for the support and bulge. Trunks used to be my favorite, but now no longer a distance runner (and a nudist), they often times feel constrictive. For briefs, I prefer the hero underoos, more of a like Saturday lazy day attire. Silkies just because of how they feel and the military uniform fetish. But, if not for sweating a lot, liking how jocks and briefs bulge, and drawing unnecessary attention to myself like in shorts, I probably would just go commando.
A destination you would want to go to for whatever reason
Italy for the wine, culture and to buy a villa, Greek for the food and honestly a couple of sexy daddies - they kinda are on the top of the list for me in that department, and Costa Rica because of its biodiversity; I can reside near the Volcano to be in a slightly cooler location year-round, be able to visit the rain forest whenever because I love the rain, preferably warmer, and still visit the beach, maybe catch myself a surfer. Honestly, if there was a place that had fall temps year round, that's my ultimate destination! My ultimate destination is much like my sex life, in fantasy alone, lmao.
What you learned about yourself through the lens of your sexual position
As a bottom, I learned it is not so much that I am submissive, rather that I just like to please, and saw bottoming as the easiest way to accomplish that; that I like to be in control as a bottom, and in such a capacity, prefer a longer session of essentially edging the guy on to prolong the pleasing; that my being gay is largely due to my fetishization of masculinity and the male form and liking to play with other guy's dicks - licking, slapping myself with them, etc., though not anal penetration; that I was a switch as I did not like to simply stick to bottom, though it took an even shorter time to realize I wasn't a traditional top. Mentally, I would fall more as a versatile bottom, though my preference for most of my 20s, especially the mid to latter has been versatile top. Essentially, if I couldn't top a guy, I usually would not bottom for him. Ultimately, I learned that I am really sensual - whereas guys that wanted me to top wanted me to be rough; love, love, love foreplay and roleplay - strip me down, strap me to a chair, and interrogate me by slapping dick all in my face, and that sex for me is about the build-up and energy exchange vs an orgasm. This is likely affected by my low dopamine levels and reward deficiency, so doing a good job at something, making that promotion, or even an orgasm does not trigger those happy good feelings like it does for a majority of guys.
Your journey with your own masculinity(/femininity)
Astrologically, I lean heavily feminine; as I did as a child, so much so, my mother tried her best to toughen me up. For most of my life, I identified so much with femininity that I never really saw my masculine side, and a major reason I fetishized masculinity and the male form early. But in my twenties, I started to realize that because I am a "lone wolf" type, introverted, do not like messy drama, and "black", that a lot of people perceived me as masculine, and it was then I was able to start to see my own masculinity. I now see myself as more masculine than feminine, but am still working on how I balance the two energies. For instance, I am a very caring empath especially toward children, but keeping to myself as a form of protection growing up having to defend my every action and be prepared for attacks, I tend to lean masculine a lot more than I do into my femininity.
What you look for or want in a guy/partner
If there is ever a day I would be looking, a guy with goals, self-awareness, and humor. He has to be sensual, caring, and nurturing. Some higher level of maturity is required. Though I am a sapiosexual, he does not have to be most intelligent guy in the room. "Common sense" goes a long way. Ultimately, I don't want him to be willfully ignorant. If he can be communicative, hold his own in a conversation and not be overly rigid in his beliefs to a fault, he is already doing a 100, lol. Though not a requirement, I would prefer him to be poly, not to be confused with being in an open relationship. Honestly, I feel the best setup for me would be a poly relationship with four other guys. Even if the other four guys enjoy anal penetration, I do not mind partaking as long as my sexual needs are met as well.
Something you are currently working on - self improvement
Taking care of myself mind/body/spirit, because honestly, who will, even more importantly, if I was not myself. Many men already struggle with taking care of themselves let alone others. This means not overworking myself as a means to validate my worthiness to others and myself to be loved. Most people in my life have loved what I did or could provide for them, not me. The need to be perfect and never fail - not that I have not many times, has always been tied to my self-worth and how much I loved myself. This is even more important now due to all the injuries I have suffered as a result of trauma. Even now, I approach burn out being in my second program this year - a year that I was on hiatus from school, in which I already will not receive the complete graduation honors as I am not doing the job career search portion. I only joined the program to learn, and despite having aced every assignment I've turned in, almost all of them with extra credit, the fact it may not be best for me to complete the coursework before the end of the course has me feeling some type of way. So, I am still in the process of learning when enough is enough work, how to time to actually relax and slow down to enjoy the roses, and loving myself regardless of what I do, because it is love of self, not love of what I do.
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When it comes to sex with other guys, I think of it as transactional versus a pleasure, a lot of which deals with porn, gay culture, and many guys prizing "acting" male vs simply being male, which I see a lot of. As noted on earlier by another, I feel that men by large use sex to validate their worthiness. It is a more a compulsion, a tool to numb rather than to genuinely share pleasure. So for me, sure, in some situations I would like to be made to body worship, or tie a guy up and play with him, etc., but I am not doing that for somebody simply because they possess a good body or have a nice dick; many guys do. There has to be a compelling interest as in, first and foremost, I like you as a person, and this is why I do not care for the BBC stereotype. This is why when some have approached me talking about my dick, I have told them to order a big black dildo instead because it is much more likely to fulfill their fantasy, that idea, than I am. Because there is no interest in me, you could literally do that with anybody else or thing that fits the criteria. Do not waste my time, because it is not like my pleasure is being sought. Instead, my desire for foreplay, sensuality, etc., would be met by a majority of guys as problematic.
Thank you. I must admit, I laughed when I saw this as, even now and being a little high, I still have a somewhat strained relationship with my body due to trauma. Definitely brought a smile for the day. 
