Knockernail
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Twenty four years ago, my partner and I adopted two brothers. They were the younges of 5 kids who's mother, our housekeeper, had passed away. Her kids were farmed out to family members and nobody wanted the littlest one's since they were in diapers. We took them and raised them. Oh, I didn't mention, they're black. We made sure they continued contact with their family, i.e. aunts, uncles and cousins but, they knew them but also knew that we were their dad's.
They were raised in a loving home. There was never a discussion of our being gay, they knew it. There was never any problems with their friends teasing and tormenting them about their 'queer daddies' they wouldn't have put up with it.
We raised them with respect love and support and values and they in return have provided us with 5 beautiful grandchildren. Both of them were in the service the oldest in the Navy and the youngest in the army. And the younges is just back from his 2nd tour in Iraq. And the way this president is fucking around it looks like he may be going back, and I hate that.
It is great to hear (read) something like that.
I take my hat off to you both. My partner and I have talked about adoption and we came to the conclusion that we are far too selfish with our lifestyle. We would not be prepared to make the sacrificies involved and therefore it would not be fair on the kids who are the most important part of all this. Sad on our part but realistic we think.
Your story brought a lump to my throat and a tear to my eye.
Hey Daverock. Do you know how goes this matter in Spain? I must recognise that i don´t know a thing about it.
By the way, if you want to adopt NIC, you must know that he likes to stroke himself. Probably he´ll close the toilet´s door and´ll stay in there for long times. Are you willing? :tongue:
My own view is that when it comes to placement for adoption the best interests of young people ought to come first and really take precedence over the rights of adoptive parents. Young people usually benefit from having both male and female role models as they tend to learn different things from men and women. It took a constipated sounding vicar's wife to point this out on Question Time the other night, but I think there was a lot of truth in what she had to say.
I grew up with no gender role models. With my father gone and my mother out.
I´m open-minded, i like to respect everybody, i´m a good person and i have values. (I know it can sound fake, said by me). I have missed, still do it, just one thing: love. The feeling of somebody caring for me; of somebody scolding me when it´s required; of somebody teaching me things, no matter how stupid can be that things; the feeling of somebody being there just for me. This is what i miss.
What do you value of what your parents gave to you? What do you think your sons (if there are) hope of you?