If I may be allowed to be blunt: the way I see it, men are men and men are sluts - at least at a basic level - this goes for gay and ungay alike.
(By this, I don't mean that all men are sluts all the time, or that there are no exceptions to this 'rule'.)
I think this has to do with the positive connotiations to the 'virile male' - men are most often brought up to be sexually aggressive - it is, to a degree, expected behavior in a male.
(I am not entirely ok with the word 'slut', but it works well for this particular discussion and I'll use it again in this post... If someone comes up with a better term, I'll gladly apply it.)
Gay men naturally are quite conscious about both their own and others mens sexuality - and the possibilities for 'objectified sex' are always there (at least for one that lives in a larger city). I guess a true
male slut could be defined as one that has sex with several different anonymous people several times a day
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For myself, I had tired of the seeming unlimited availability of emotionally detached sex already by my early and mid twenties, and I'm not sure that I had (or have) more sex than I would have had if I had only been interested in women - though I have most likely had lots more objectified sex than if that had been the case...
I certainly like to know that sex is 'available', but I much prefer the sex I have when I am also emotionally involved and in a steady relationship.
That said, I am also intrigued by the nature of objectifying sex however - I have always continued to explore it - and I certainly feel enriched by many those experiences.
Some men are of course more naturally shy than naturally 'slutty'... One childhood friend of mine - also gay - appears to only have been with his two successive partners. Among all of my acquaintances everywhere, he seems to be quite rare indeed.
I'd like to add that I don't think it's less natural for a gay male couple to be monogamous in a relationship than for an ungay (I'm starting to get used to that expression - almost
weird! :tongue: ) couple - but I think that since the modern gay movement appeared more or less simultaneously with the 'sexual revolution' this has brought a particular flavour to the nature of gay relationships in the world of today.
About 'sluttiness': It's such an obsolete expression by now (look at the e.g. the fashion industry; the t-shirt slogans etc. etc. I've seen kids just barely into their teens wearing t-shirts saying 'Porn Star'...) What next? Is it gonna be:
'Slutty is the new modest.' ?? On second thought, we're probably way past that stage by now even... - I am able to use the term slut when it comes to men because it then has a humorous flavour as well - but I never apply it to women unless it's clearly meant as a joke.
Things have been changing dramatically since the days of
'make love, not war' (that slogan almost sounds like a bit prudish and sort of 'Victorian' statement by now)
- and with the newest generation especially. My impression is that these days opportunities for promiscuity are ample whatever your sexual preference is.