Gay bed death

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Wondering how common it is for gay male couples to have bed death, where you love each other still, but the frequency of sex drops drastically. It's a common lesbian stereotype so I just wondered if it also happens with males.
 

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Wondering how common it is for gay male couples to have bed death, where you love each other still, but the frequency of sex drops drastically. It's a common lesbian stereotype so I just wondered if it also happens with males.

Hm that's a rather morbid way to refer to it!! Never heard that phrase before.

I think it is pretty common in gay relationships just as in straight ones. Certainly has happened to me.
 
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I don't think it has anything to do with the sexual orientation of the couple. Living day to day life just takes the wind out of your sails so to speak and the frequency of sexual just drops. i would think its somewhat natural for
everyone
 
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Hm that's a rather morbid way to refer to it!! Never heard that phrase before.


have to agree, never heard of such

Never happend to me .. i dont think?
Maybe it did on 2nd thoughts?
Sex dropped off, but the Love was still there, in a a far different way..if that makes sense?
 

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right here right now - and it's fucking me off big time. Don't wanna fuck around just to make up for it - been there, done that. Fucking around is fine, but in addition, not instead of in my book. Can do my best at a monogamous relationship but not a celibate one. Any ideas?
 

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Any ideas?

aawww come on, cheer up jzz
put you cock, where your mouth is ...j/k


some of us Kiwis know your all damn good Fuckers, when your Wallabies occasionally beat the ABs ..ha

i am a Wallaby supporter btw ha
 

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I had a friend/neighbor that said "One you start having sex with your husband/wife. Get a Big jar or Alhambra water bottle. everytime you have sex (In the first year) place a penny, gumball, or something into the jar. After the first year, everytime you have sex, take one out. You will NEVER enpty the jar".

I don't know from experiance as I have not had a LTR.

Craig
 

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Regarding the Original Post:
It is very common, in Both Gay men and Heterosexual couples too. sometimes the Lust and sex fade in a relationship. I have a number of (elder) gay friend-couples who no longer have sex with each other, and that is for various reasons. For some it is due to one or both having medical issues. For others, its just that they love each other and will stay with each other for emotional reasons, but the spark of sexual intimacy is gone.

For me, I can say the following. I am essentially sexually Polyamorous for the physical act of sex, however I make commitments based on emotional connection to others. I do not expect the men that I get with to stay sexually faithful to me alone. I do however expect them to know where (home) is, and that I would be there for them. If for whatever reason the man I am with feels more strongly for someone than me, I would hope that he would tell me. To me, a relationship based in Monogamy, should not be a sexual prison. You can love and be faithful to someone yet still be physically polyamorous sexually speaking, with others. If I got sick, and I was unable to perform for my partner, I would allow him the freedon to go play with others, because I would want him to be happy, and have a need that he would want met, be met by someone else. That, would make me happy, that although I was not able to meet his need, that he had the freedom to go get it from someone else who could. I honestly feel that there is no reason there should be Bed-death. . at all. . but that is my opinion.