gay bottoming question: do you need training for a long dick, as you do for thickness? or it's about how you are built and there's not much to do?

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I dont have much experience bottoming, but I realized in the past that something longer than 15cm (6in), maybe even a little shorter, hits a wall or something, it hurts and cant go deeper inside me.

I heard about the roof of a vagina, but not of a bottom. do you think it has to do with relaxation or positions? it doesnt seem to be the case...

I would like to get fucked by a guy, but he is over 20cm and i just know he is going to want to go balls deep...
 

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It's not a wall it's the "second hole" where the sigmoid colon joins the rectum. A corner. It's called the second hole because it can feel tight to a penetrating top and to a bottom not used to having a cock or toy push past that corner to penetrate deeper.

The answer to your question is yes you need deep practice as well especially if going past that wall is uncomfortable or painful.

As always use lots of lube. I recommend a lube injector to get it in deep. Also use toys which have a little bit of give or bendiness to them not hard plastic or glass toys.

Good luck and have fun. :cool:
 

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I dont have much experience bottoming, but I realized in the past that something longer than 15cm (6in), maybe even a little shorter, hits a wall or something, it hurts and cant go deeper inside me.

I heard about the roof of a vagina, but not of a bottom. do you think it has to do with relaxation or positions? it doesnt seem to be the case...

I would like to get fucked by a guy, but he is over 20cm and i just know he is going to want to go balls deep...
Everything the previous people said but.... You have a say in what happens. It's your body, you can dictate some of what happens. Right? If you're uneasy or want to be cautious, talk about it. You have the right AND responsibility to speak up.

Side rant: why do people think that bottoms should just suck it up and allow everything a top wants to do?
 

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Everything the previous people said but.... You have a say in what happens. It's your body, you can dictate some of what happens. Right? If you're uneasy or want to be cautious, talk about it. You have the right AND responsibility to speak up.

Side rant: why do people think that bottoms should just suck it up and allow everything a top wants to do?
yes you are right, this instance is kind of a special situation/dynamic
 
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It's not a wall it's the "second hole" where the sigmoid colon joins the rectum. A corner. It's called the second hole because it can feel tight to a penetrating top and to a bottom not used to having a cock or toy push past that corner to penetrate deeper.

The answer to your question is yes you need deep practice as well especially if going past that wall is uncomfortable or painful.

As always use lots of lube. I recommend a lube injector to get it in deep. Also use toys which have a little bit of give or bendiness to them not hard plastic or glass toys.

Good luck and have fun. :cool:
thank you for your reply, got it
 
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Like all things in life, the bigger you go & the bigger you get, takes practice, until you meet that man with a XXXL cock, practice with some big toys, like a good dildo like 12inches, i used to use one years ago with a suction cup on the end, i could place it against the wall at my height & back up on to it, it takes time & patience to take a really big extreme cock balls deep, so prepare your hole for it. Like they say practice makes perfect, to give you an idea of the size of cock that i take nowadays ( well only sometimes ) take a look at my video's to give you an idea & don't forget using lube. I prefer oil based lube as that gives a more silky feeling maybe thats because i only get fucked bare too, so oil is my preference. You can use whatever feels good for you obviously. Hope my advice helps you a little.
 

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Everything the previous people said but.... You have a say in what happens. It's your body, you can dictate some of what happens. Right? If you're uneasy or want to be cautious, talk about it. You have the right AND responsibility to speak up.

Side rant: why do people think that bottoms should just suck it up and allow everything a top wants to do?
Just remember that as a bottom you also have control. You have the right to say no at any time. When I top I like to go balls deep, and because I have a long cock the pay-off can be awesome for both of us. But I also learned early on that lots of lube is essential. So is knowing how to angle my cock properly
 

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Just remember that as a bottom you also have control. You have the right to say no at any time. When I top I like to go balls deep, and because I have a long cock the pay-off can be awesome for both of us. But I also learned early on that lots of lube is essential. So is knowing how to angle my cock properly
That is honest good advice, i know the position can make a huge difference, not only in how it feels but also how deep you can fit it all in, i love a man that knows what he is doing & can get balls deep, that i can feel his pubes against my ass. That feeling is awesome & yep plenty of lube even though just a little can be hotter too, then you really feel it too.
 

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I usually bottom with my husband, his cock is a liitle over 20 cm/8" and is very thick, curved up. I find that knowing your partner cock shape and size you can most try to find out which position suits you best. For instance, I have a REALLY great time doing missionary or cowboy, but dogstyle just doesn't work for me. It just hurts and is not pleasant at all. Probably has to do with the "geometry" os his cock and my rectum and colon.

As everyone said, you have the right to say when you don't like a given position or how hard it goes, and your partnet should respect it. It must be a pleasing experience for both of you, regardless if you are topping or bottoming! Hope you have a great time :)
 

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Everything the previous people said but.... You have a say in what happens. It's your body, you can dictate some of what happens. Right? If you're uneasy or want to be cautious, talk about it. You have the right AND responsibility to speak up.

Side rant: why do people think that bottoms should just suck it up and allow everything a top wants to do?
Just write it on the other thread then read your post, it's so sick actually, like, I watch gay bottom stand up comedian, talking about top telling em they will destroy your hole then they mean it and really do it, then people laugh. like, it's clearly rape, you sick, sex must be enjoyable for both, not only for one of, porn really destroy everything. Like, as a bottom you must accept anything the top treated you, go hard, ramming, destroy your hole, it's really sick. Like, how could you enjoy hurt and destroy others hole? They definitely have a rape tendency, but with consent, but the consent only at the front for having sex, not consenting at go hard, ramming, destroying hole, etc. Actually I'm not surprised at all, just see how man treated woman all this time, don't like foreplay, just directly go to penetration, husband stitches, wanna sex exactly after their wife giving birth, and Noone feels thats wrong, soo sick,
 

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Just write it on the other thread then read your post, it's so sick actually, like, I watch gay bottom stand up comedian, talking about top telling em they will destroy your hole then they mean it and really do it, then people laugh. like, it's clearly rape, you sick, sex must be enjoyable for both, not only for one of, porn really destroy everything. Like, as a bottom you must accept anything the top treated you, go hard, ramming, destroy your hole, it's really sick. Like, how could you enjoy hurt and destroy others hole? They definitely have a rape tendency, but with consent, but the consent only at the front for having sex, not consenting at go hard, ramming, destroying hole, etc. Actually I'm not surprised at all, just see how man treated woman all this time, don't like foreplay, just directly go to penetration, husband stitches, wanna sex exactly after their wife giving birth, and Noone feels thats wrong, soo sick,
For me it's the violent words. That's not sexy to me. I don't understand this préoccupation with violent sex and sex talk and still be considered fun.
 
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I've never needed training, for some reason since I was a teen I've been able to suck up the biggest thickest of cocks with no issue (as you can see in my videos haha). I guess some of are just born to take it?
I think some guys are more sensitive to or unable to easily handle all of the sensory input that comes with bottoming. When the sensitive bottom guys finds the sensitive top guys, it's usually a match made in heaven.
 
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I will say there’s no really prepping.. just work on trust and he can rim you and maybe use an anal toy long and little thick ..


but I been fucked by few guys 8 to 10 inches big and each one feels different .. but with me I love a dominant guy and love the pain.. some guys don’t .. so best thing to do is tell mr big dick to lube up and go in easy .. pump in and out short strokes as going in.. if feels like not slick enough tell him pull out and add more lube..

If you are the bottom but not totally submissive like me .. remember it’s your ass .. either he deals with it your way at first or tell him put his dick away ..

butif it was me I’d let him work it in because once he is inside you and you have loosened up for his cock and he begins fucking you.. it’s awesome to feel that meat stretching your insides every time he goes in and out
 

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And I want to say one more thing.. people get so hooked up on huge cocks and balls .. I met this guy years ago .. he was barely 5 inches cut but extra firm…
I saw his dick and thought ok this will be fun and all but ended out being more than I intended


to this day he ranks as one of the best fucks I ever had.. he knew how to work it and when he’d cum he just made me want to beg for more..
 

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It's not a wall it's the "second hole" where the sigmoid colon joins the rectum. A corner. It's called the second hole because it can feel tight to a penetrating top and to a bottom not used to having a cock or toy push past that corner to penetrate deeper.

The answer to your question is yes you need deep practice as well especially if going past that wall is uncomfortable or painful.

As always use lots of lube. I recommend a lube injector to get it in deep. Also use toys which have a little bit of give or bendiness to them not hard plastic or glass toys.

Good luck and have fun. :cool:
This post is dead on. Most guys really struggle to open up that second hole. If I just ram it, is all it does is hurt. I know when I get to that second hole, I gotta go slow and the guy has to relax. Honestly it is pretty rare to feel my dick pop into that super tight place. When it happens, it is so amazing. It is like fucking a guy but the most sensitive part of my dick is getting this super attention. It is extremely hard for me to do it for very long. The feeling is just too intense.

I also have to add that not everyone is built the same. Assholes and throats are as different as any other part of the body. Some are naturally super tight to the point where I can barely get my dick in at all. Others my dick slides in easily. Where that bend is also is different for every person. Some it is only at about 6" in. Others I can just feel it at the end of my dick. I remember having this 18 year old who seemed built for fucking. He didn't struggle much to adjust to my dick when I started to fuck him. His second hole was pretty close, but he could easily take my entire dick. While I was fucking him, when I entered that hole, his eyes would roll to the back of his head and he would soon be shooting hard shots of cum hands free. That didn't come from practice, it was just how his ass was built. I have also had throats so tight it almost hurt my dick and a few that were so big, my dick barely felt the tightness. I am sure practice helps, but there is also sometimes just your own anatomy.

I guess the advice I would give is for you to explore your own body and figure out not only what feels the very best, but what you can or can't do to take more or less.