When most people meet me, they automatically assume that I'm straight. I'm very masculine and you probably wouldn't know that I was gay unless I told you. I recently came out this year and I had a few of my friends message me on Facebook saying things like "Congrats, I'm really happy for you" I'd ask them if they were surprised that I was gay and they would say "You know, not really. You're a good looking guy, you're nice, polite, and really thoughtful...it makes since that you're gay, women don't deserve you" It sort of had me thinking...Is being nice, polite, caring and considerate common characteristic in gay men? What are are a few signs that set your "Gaydar" off?