Just asking gay guys out there if they’ve ever had a regular / long term sexual relationship with a married man? Do you like it or do you prefer fully out openly gay men?
Used to fuck around with a married bloke years and years ago - did not end well!
Met him thru Craigslist when I was living abroad in Chicago - he was living in Pittsburg but travelled to Chicago often. Had no idea he was married. I just put an ad out to hook up - which was all I was expecting.
First meet - his plane landed late and we were meeting at his hotel in town (I was out in the burbs) had driven into the city to meet him otherwise would have just canned it when I knew he was gonna be a few hours late.
Ended up meeting up - he was pretty cute, slight muscular build, Italian, nice olive skin. Not exactly my type but hot enuff. Had a fun night, he was a pretty smart, likeable guy. Kept getting the impression he was trying to alpha dog me a bit but - we got along great so that was that.
Anyways - so after our hook up he kept emailing me so we developed a bit of a relationship - he'd come to town a bit so hooked up a few more times. Turns out, he was married, had hooked up with men on the regular before - and his Mrs was preggo ..
As things developed I notice he started getting reasonably possessive. He would always ask if I had hooked up with anyone in-between our meets (I obviously had) - I bottomed for him but - at that point, was not a bottom, didn't even really enjoy anal as a top or a bottom.. He always fucked raw and made a point of saying that he didn't mind if I hooked up with guys (which he was clearly jealous of) but just asked me to not bottom for them (wasn't really in any danger of that so - yeah fine) cos he was worried about STD's ..
We ended up getting bolder - met him in Boston for a weekend together - then he joined me for two weeks on a trip back to Australia (No idea how he got that past his Mrs)
All the time the relationship bounced between super fun and arguing over him getting pissy with me if I ever hooked up with anyone while he wasn't around. We'd even organised a small orgy type thing (5 guys us included) and he got pissy cos a) I spent more time with one of the hotter guys there than him B) the guys seemed more interested in me than him in general and he figured I was playing up to that .. whatever that means.
Anyways - this went on for maybe two years before he asked if I wanted to visit his home town and stay at his house with his Mrs for the weekend. He assured me they had a contained unit in the house and it was pretty private - which I stupidly agreed to (still have no idea why) .. anyways .. the unit was a finished basement in his house - which was mostly private but right next to their laundry. One morning he came downstairs early and slipped in with me to give me a blowie - the Mrs came down after we'd done but - I guess it looked suss .. so apparently her and him had a bit of a closed door discussion - things were obviously uncomfortable after this but he managed to talk her out of any suspicions ..we went to the football and while we were out - she went thru my gear and found a few things that he had given me taht he'd obviously taken from his house ..I left the next morning so only heard about the fallout.
Apparently he finally confessed that we had played around ..but made it sound like i was his first and it was all at my instigation .. He ran the story by me to see if I would co-operate so, which I agreed to .. his Mrs then called me with him on the call to go thru his fictional version of what happened and after than - he and I met up once more and called the whole thing off ..
Was super weird - pretty morally compromising and I'd never do it again!