Gay Couple Crossdressing And Have Sex With Others

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Hello I’m a gay guy and I have a relationship with another guy for 5years now and recently we decided to spice up our sex life by wearing women clothing so we’re crossdressing and find other guys online and we’re having sex with them dressed as girls, at first i was okay with this because I really felt good and enjoyed it, but as the time goes by we started to have sex with other guys but not together like a threesome, for example my boyfriend was fucking with one guy in one room and in the other room I was with another guy, and now I don’t know how to feel about it, my boyfriend says that sex is something different than love and it doesn’t mean the we don’t love eachother.But I really don’t know what to think because I feel guilty and sad sometimes because I feel that this thing maybe is destroying our relationship, but my boyfriend says that it’s all ok and we don’t have to hyperanalyse everything. I still feel nice when I get fuck with other guys because I do that dressed as a woman and I feel that I’m not really my usual self, but I still feel guilty. it’s really that complicated or it’s really simple? Please tell me your opinions.
 
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Based on what you said, this is destroying your relationship because your boyfriend is not listening to you. He's dismissing your concerns outright because he's happy screwing other people without you in the room. In addition, he's turning your concerns back on you and trying to make you feel bad about having them in the first place. He doesn't want to discuss this with you because he doesn't want you to ask him to start including you again.

The two of you need to have a long overdue conversation and come to some sort of understanding about what is and is not allowed with these hookups. If he's not willing to discuss this with you at all, then you have your answer.
 
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Based on what you said, this is destroying your relationship because your boyfriend is not listening to you. He's dismissing your concerns outright because he's happy screwing other people without you in the room. In addition, he's turning your concerns back on you and trying to make you feel bad about having them in the first place. He doesn't want to discuss this with you because he doesn't want you to ask him to start including you again.

The two of you need to have a long overdue conversation and come to some sort of understanding about what is and is not allowed with these hookups. If he's not willing to discuss this with you at all, then you have your answer.

This response sounds sensible. Hope it works out for you. Communicating honestly is key.
 
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Based on what you said, this is destroying your relationship because your boyfriend is not listening to you. He's dismissing your concerns outright because he's happy screwing other people without you in the room. In addition, he's turning your concerns back on you and trying to make you feel bad about having them in the first place. He doesn't want to discuss this with you because he doesn't want you to ask him to start including you again.

The two of you need to have a long overdue conversation and come to some sort of understanding about what is and is not allowed with these hookups. If he's not willing to discuss this with you at all, then you have your answer.
I totally agree. The problem with your relationship is the lack of communication. As with any new sexual adventures your partner and you try, communication about it is super important. The fact you are having issues and have communicated it with him but he isn't wanting to talk about it says there is a big problem. I hope you and him can talk about it and work out a solution.

Sex and Love are 2 totally different things, but to many couples, they are very well-linked together. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that. Good luck.
 
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at first i was okay with this because I really felt good and enjoyed it, but ..we started to have sex with other guys not ..a threesome, for example my boyfriend was fucking with one guy in one room and <I> in the other room with another guy, my boyfriend says that ..doesn’t mean we don’t love eachother. But I really feel guilty and sad.. sometimes ..I feel that this thing maybe is destroying our relationship, but my boyfriend says it’s all ok and we don’t have to hyperanalyse everything. I still feel nice when I get fuck with other guys..but I still feel guilty. it’s really that complicated or it’s really simple? Please tell me your opinions.

greekguy5 it's not a complicated situation. You are in love with one another and involved in an activity you each enjoy. If you want to restrict your activity to threesomes, or stop, just let your boyfriend know what you decide to do.
 
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