When you finally made it to the gay community
What does this even mean?
When you finally made it to the gay community, did it live up to your expectations?
I'm sorry but I have a lot of grievances, so bare with me. Oh and nice to see you all here; only just found this thread and regret not finding it earlier. I will admit also that I am not as... mixed with the "mainstream" gay community as it would be expected, so I do have some bias. Take with that what you will.Of the 40 respondents to the survey so far, the majority have selected disappointment with the gay community.
For those who chose disappointment, is there anything the gay community can do to improve its status in your eyes?
Thank you to all who have taken the survey and to all the feedback comments.
If you need examples, think Aaron Schock, DJ Davids, Alec Rugo, Colby Melvin, KC & Jax, Jake Jacob, Reno Gold, you get the idea.
You’ve never heard of Aaron Schock? Do you live under a rock?Uh... I've never even heard of any one of these. Not a single one.
When you finally made it to the gay community, did it live up to your expectations?
A dear friend of mine was murdered and we,The so-called gay community, held a rally to get votes so the murder could be seen as a hate crime. 7 gay people showed up. We then reached out to the jewish community and 300 showed up saying that if more was needed they would be there. We got the hate crime.
I completely agree with you. The gay community, especially during Pride, puts too much emphasis on looks, having a hot body, nudity and being shirtless. It’s very superficial. There is a definite pecking order. If a guy is white, attractive and muscular, he is automatically considered the most desirable and everyone wants to be around him and fuck him. It doesn’t matter if he is a shitty person or has no personality. Gay men have much higher rates of Body Dysmorphic Disorder (BDD) and eating disorders because of this pecking order and the constant pressure to fit this mold. I have BDD partly because of it. I wish there were less of an emphasis on looks and nudity during Pride because there have been concerts I’ve wanted to go to, but I know from photos and video of past Pride concerts that most of the guys attend shirtless. I just want to see the pop stars perform and enjoy the concert. I don’t want to have to worry about how I look and be one of the few guys wearing a shirt in a crowd of hundreds or thousands of shirtless guys. That would be very triggering and make me feel very uncomfortable.I'm sorry but I have a lot of grievances, so bare with me. Oh and nice to see you all here; only just found this thread and regret not finding it earlier. I will admit also that I am not as... mixed with the "mainstream" gay community as it would be expected, so I do have some bias. Take with that what you will.
So, first would be to stop "worshipping" the gays who are rich, white, muscular and party-hoes. I will admit that I don't have many gay friends, but the ones I have, I check their instagram profiles and they all follow at least 10 of these people. If you need examples, think Aaron Schock, DJ Davids, Alec Rugo, Colby Melvin, KC & Jax, Jake Jacob, Reno Gold, you get the idea. I feel as though gays have elevated them just because they are attractive and are like "gods" to most of us (which of course they are not). Everytime I see them on someone's feed, I immediately start judging my body or I have the biggest angst about going to the gym, but not for myself; but because I want that life, I want that money, I want those travels. Once that happens, I'm reminded of their catiness and the toxicity that follows them.
I sometimes wander through their IG's and see some of their posts saying (Melania voice) "Ooh yes I've been oppressed. Me come from very religious family growing up, so me think su*cide when little, but manage to move to the city, you know, like everyone" and instanly I want to yell "shut the f*ck up!". Sure, show off your body for your onlyfans and that sugar daddy of yours, but it doesn't have to define your ENTIRE profile.
I feel as if the main goal of these type of gays is to look as plastic as possible simply to fit in, and throw everyone under the bus if need be. But in reality, at least my partner and I, just want to have friends to watch Netflix with, chat with and maybe just visit a city to see the sights. This culture of thongs, jockstraps and being sassy as f*ck is too much, and simply keeps alive the notion of "privilege" which we're all trying so hard to erase.
Anyways, rant over so hope you feel the same way; just kinda asking for a friend.
Thanks for opening this space and everyone have a lovely day today![]()
I’m guessing you don’t believe in the adage that there’s no such thing as a dumb question.This is a dumb question. First, there is no monolithic "gay community". It's not like there are memberships cards or anything. Second, putting expectations on others, no matter who they are, is always going to lead to disappointment. So yes, the "gay community" has lived up to my expectations because I have not put any expectations on "it".
I get the distinct impression that the OP has his own unmet expectations, and that he is posing the question to validate his own view of how the mythical "gay community" is unsatisfactory.