Its all a case of perspective. One I'm not too open to them about girls...or much of anything. So I'm sure they think they are just worried. More so cousins are questioning anyway. Even less openes, all apperance...And I'm eclectic, eccentric, friendly and don't talk to girls to much of anybody because of having so little confidence on the issue lately. Girls have shown their interest, but lately I can even trust myself enough to make a move. Intimidated by my past girls I guess.
Hi Ajoi. As a mostly gay man I cannot empathise with you but as an eclectic eccentric gentleman I can understand that part. Firstly: it's funny to see some guys on here offering oral sex - right guys - what's that gonna do apart from boost your cock craving? Just like the witches in the Wizard of Oz they always appear when you least need them :smile:
OK - now with serious mind in play - I used to have confidence issues. I've done a few courses in self esteem and assertiveness and they have made a major improvement but I did not start until I was 32 so take your time.
Family are the worst - you are emotionally connected to them - they know how to get under your skin. I cannot tell you what to do but the more assertive you are with them (look them in the eye, say nothing and smile!) when they ask you probing questions will help them get the message to back off.
I lived at home for quite a while and my old dear was a nosy bitch who decided to try and find out everything about me - well she did - her boy liked cock. So whatever you fear that your family will find out (you like girls, you are well endowed, you are a human being) once you realise it is not a big issue to you they will back down.
Re: issues from the past. It takes time to deal with it, for me it was an obsession with someone who was so wrong for me I desired them like a drug. I'm still dealing with it and every day it gets better.
Finally: Take your time, see where life takes you. When you feel the time is right to move away from family and an opportunity provides itself then take it - you will look back in a few years and see how everything has fitted together as a jigsaw - most importantly do not panic and find something that gives you pleasure (not what some of the guys on here are thinking :tongue and have some moments of solace.
Best wishes,
Rob.