From all the information I have absorbed I understand it had become "unpopular" even within the gay community to be effeminate. Too bad. To be shunned and looked down upon within ones own community. I enjoy exploring the differences, likenesses, perspectives and diversity of people, especially people within my own group. I feel we are all here to learn while we are on this earth, absorb information and add it to your experience, try not to judge and just take it all in. The people who are most different and on the fringes can be the most interesting and really teach us something. Teach us how good we have it, how fortunate we are, how small our problems really are, you never know until you open up and reach out to someone.
Some men are effeminate, its a fact, big deal, some of them are also straight. Then what, do they make the OP uncomfortable? I am neither overly masculine or feminine, just a well rounded human being. Actors get paid, if your not then why waste all the time fronting I say.