Gay Guys-do you envy straight guys?

[Andresito]

Not envy, but I would really like to have a child of my own.

 

[D_Hanky Philler]

I envy straight girls.... Lol

 

[fratpack]

i really dont see anything to envy

 

[Fun_Dave]

lol
I'm jealous of straight chicks...
Lets face it the straight guys are the hot ones.:redface:

 

[Stephenmass]

I don't think it's a bad question. During the acceptance and struggle years didn't most of us wish the gay part of us would go away? Wouldn't have being str8 at this time in life have been easier? Sure it would have. BUT, once you realize it's not going to go away, and it's a part of you that is NOT going to change, you accept it and move forward. How many of us have not been the least bit jealous of how much easier it is for a str8 guy out there because he is ALREADY accepted? No questions asked and he gets all of the societal benefits too,he can make out in public, hold hands, kiss, etc. As a gay man, we cannot do that most of the time because we always have to watch our backs. That is the only part of being gay that I hate. I can't understand how close minded individuals do not understand the concept of how they didn't choose to be str8 anymore than I didn't choose to be gay. I just am and yes, it is much more of a struggle as a gay man during the acceptance of yourself and coming out years and yes it would have been easier at this time to have been str8. I don't think as I said it's a bad question.

 

[Notsobigbutenough]

The bid advantage is not needing to understand and deal with the communication habits and patterns of those women who play games with being indirect.

Really true.

 

[SR_Ethan Hunke]

Envy implies there is something wrong with me. So to answer your question no, I do not envy other straight guys. What do they have that I don't? What can they do that I can't? I only envy material things, like a huge plasma TV, such is the course of nature. I don't envy sexual orientation. It is part of who I am and what makes me myself, and I can assure you I don't plan on changing that.

 

[EdWoody]

I envy straight girls.... Lol

I don't, because then I'd have to have a vagina. Outdoor plumbing is much easier to maintain.

Lets face it the straight guys are the hot ones.:redface:

Some of them, sure. But far from all. And if you think there aren't some hot gay guys out there, you're just meeting the wrong guys.

During the acceptance and struggle years didn't most of us wish the gay part of us would go away? Wouldn't have being str8 at this time in life have been easier? Sure it would have.

I hope I'm not just rosewashing the past, But I don't think I ever went through any such phase.

No, I maintain thoroughly and without doubt that my life would have been much less interesting if i were straight. I'm extremely grateful I'm not.

Of course being gay has its challenges. So does being straight. Every class of people has their own set of problems, so it's pointless to give up one set of problems for another.

 

[aqua-illusion]

lol
I'm jealous of straight chicks...
Lets face it the straight guys are the hot ones.:redface:

There are hot gay/bi guys...but honestly, I agree, LOL!

The hotter ones are straight...but not saying there aren't hot gays.:smile:

 

[WillyLong]

There is nothing that a straight guy has swinging between his legs that a gay guy doesn't have, and chances are, ours are bigger.

Research says erect gay penises are bigger - Salon.com
The relationship between sexual orientation and penis size

 

[pinkpineapples]

I do. Life would be so much simpler.. Could walk up to someone and ask them out and not be worried they will freak out on you because you're gay. Less hated. And how often do you get to see 2 men holding hands walking around in the mall? Or holding hands when they're out at dinner?

So yeah... I can be envious

 

[CUBE]

I sure did growing up. I use to think if I am having to weigh the whole gay thing in my mind all the time...just think of all the free thought time they have not having to think about it.

 

[FuzzyKen]

For me my orientation was not an instant realization but a process and maybe I am lucky for that part. Being a bit older than many on this board I had numerous heterosexual relationships and I had a ton of heterosexual sex on a level at one point that maybe was not the smartest thing I could have done.

I have in fact on this board in other locations talked of the days of parties involving both sexes using the "pile system". It was a different time and place and we did not yet have the STD issues.

I could have sex with a female easily and in fact did more times than I could count. At the same time while I evidently did more than OK at it, I never felt any emotional or psychological connection during those acts.

I was also engaged to be married in a heterosexual relationship. I feel incredibly lucky to have really come to terms with who or whom I was before that commitment ever happened. I will always love the female who would have been my partner in life, but it simply was not right and I did not havce enough of the right feelings to assure that the marriage would have been successful and permanent.

I have been with my gay spouse now for a dozen years and when I said "I Do" on that one I knew from the beginning it would last and it has in spite of many roadblocks.

I did not miss out on anything and in fact in 2005 I even became a Dad by taking in an abused Nephew trying to escape a troubled home life. I am a parent and the only thing I missed out on was diapers and 2 o clock feedings!

If you want to be a parent you can be a parent. Just be damn certain that you really want the job and are up to doing it. I can tell you from experience that they don't come with an owners manual and if they did they would be 50,000 pages long with no table of contents and no index.

I made a decision based on experience.

I do not for one minute have any envy of any individual who made a commitment in a heterosexual relationship in any manner. I would not expect a person who was of heterosexual orientation to have envy of me either simply because it is who we are and what we can love and relate to. My relationship would not work for him and his would not work for me. Where is there anything to envy in that.

People who have this issue as a general rule are not comfortable with who or whom they are and this is a time that a little counseling may be a good thing. The idea is to have whatever relationship you choose to have work for a lifetime.

 

[rbkwp]

Cant say i have had anything to envy Strs over .. except for there procreation habit ha
Then again i only respect those who put the effort in to bring there progeny right thru to Adulthood, treating them with the utmost Love & Respect etc..
Dislike immensley the ones who 'scarper' or abuse there kids.
Other than that, they are no different to us, matter of fact (i think) ratio of good lookers Str compared to good lookers Gay hahah
STUPID Thought ha
enz

 

[B_Castello]

I did wish when I was yonger that I was straight and I did envie them, now I'm getting more confortable with who I am, so I'm learning to understand myself better and try not to feel guilty... I think it's take time. But the envie is more in the fact that life is more simple for a straight man, and at the same time, I dont like things to be too easy lol

 

[karldergrosse]

Not at all--except, maybe, for their freedom to be open about their orientation in all situations. :redface: Or wait--perhaps it's not envy, but righteous indignation about uptight society...!

P.S. to Castello: There's no reason in the world for you to feel guilty. Gayness is a very natural and beautiful thing...we're born with it.

 

[Boondocksaints]

There is nothing that a straight guy has swinging between his legs that a gay guy doesn't have, and chances are, ours are bigger.

Research says erect gay penises are bigger - Salon.com
The relationship between sexual orientation and penis size

These studies are not exactly reliable. The participants self measured and mailed in the results.

 

[B_Castello]

Not at all--except, maybe, for their freedom to be open about their orientation in all situations. :redface: Or wait--perhaps it's not envy, but righteous indignation about uptight society...!

P.S. to Castello: There's no reason in the world for you to feel guilty. Gayness is a very natural and beautiful thing...we're born with it.

I know that I dont have to feel guilty, but it's a long journey of acceptance and understanding, and it doesn't happen overnight :smile:

 

[luka82]

I envy every guy who has a bigger dick than I do)))

 

[D_Harry_Crax]

Back to original question: absolutely not.