Gay guys experimenting with straight guys.

[beltboy]

Someone posted earlier that these new "ask" formums encorage labelling. So I will be careful in how I ask this.

Guys who identify as gay, have you been intimate or engaged in sex play (anything on the spectrum from comparing boners to full on fucking), with guys who primarily identify as straight?

I can count at least five encounters of this nature....and in my mind the five guys are straight, just open minded.

 

[dylz]

not sex, but kissing. i am not sure what his sexuality really is but he did identify as straight at that time

 

[EdWoody]

It's possible, but if so I wouldn't really know.

By which I mean, how the hell am I supposed to know how a man defines his sexuality when the only connection I have with them is purely physical, be it in a backroom or gym sauna or back alley somewhere? Once his dick is in my mouth or vice versa, the matter of "Hey, so are you actually gay, or what?" is kind of moot.

To my knowledge, I've never been sexual with a man who wasn't either full-on gay or at least bi. But raging slut that I am, I could very easily not know, is my point.

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[rbkwp]

Yes
(after checking to see if i can respond in this thread)
several times
Was just M/M natural curiosity, not so much str/gay (we talked about it)
and happened in the younger years, so we did not know of this adult terminology
I know, youngsters talking re such is often a no no/embarrasment, but i had a knack even then, of being a sensitive sexual being hah, and talked persons thru things, even if they did not want to listen ..

 

[notN2pussy]

all the time

 

[azbjbilly]

I've been with a lot of guys who were wearing a wedding ring.

 

[D_22]

One acquaintance from school once asked me if he was drunk enough, if I'd be down to make out with him. We eventually started talking later and I told him no because I knew he had a girl. He seem really disappointed because from what I understood, he wanted to finally experiment.

 

[Hotlatbtm]

I had a straight married man as a lover once. I did what his wife wouldn't do. He still was 'straight' BUT he enjoyed what I could for him. There was no commitment, just sex when he wanted it ( his wife just was NOT that into sex after the marriage and the one child ) I can't get pregnant. Im willing to do what he wanted as it was as fun for me as it was for him. Some guys just like the 'thrill'. I'd still be with a straight guy tho it would have to be and will always be on the downlow...

 

[invisibleman]

Someone posted earlier that these new "ask" formums encorage labelling. So I will be careful in how I ask this.

Guys who identify as gay, have you been intimate or engaged in sex play (anything on the spectrum from comparing boners to full on fucking), with guys who primarily identify as straight?

I can count at least five encounters of this nature....and in my mind the five guys are straight, just open minded.

I kissed a bisexual bartender a lonnnngggg time ago.

 

[AtomicMouse1950]

Then... you didn't have sex with a straight man. You had sex with a bisexual man, or a gay man who never faced up to it.

I had a straight married man as a lover once. I did what his wife wouldn't do. He still was 'straight' BUT he enjoyed what I could for him. There was no commitment, just sex when he wanted it ( his wife just was NOT that into sex after the marriage and the one child ) I can't get pregnant. Im willing to do what he wanted as it was as fun for me as it was for him. Some guys just like the 'thrill'. I'd still be with a straight guy tho it would have to be and will always be on the downlow...

 

[Lucifel]

I've been with a lot of guys who were wearing a wedding ring.

Just because they wear a wedding ring, doesn't make them straight.

 

[805515]

Yes, almost daily, i escort parttime, and most my clients are married men, or str8 curious , 1st timers, etc...

 

[erratic]

Yeah I did. Mostly with friends. Mostly not worth it, I assure you. Just because you have a dick doesn't mean you know how to handle someone else's.

 

[g_whiz]

I've had consensual sex with more than a few of my male "straight" friends. Generally it's made us closer and (a few times its made our relationships more complicated). The thing about sexual identity is that the individual identity of a person can differ from that of the social identity of a person.

Case in point, the "sexual orientation" label on this site ranges in percentage, allowing people to indicate the degrees of straightness and gayness they believe they are. This doesn't mean they're stuck with the decision and this cannot change over time. All identites are subject to change, seeing and insisting on everyone fitting a narrow binary of sexuality doesn't always get the most easily understandable results.

 

[LargeSide]

Nothing more than a rare comparison or a hand job.

 

[Kimahri]

I've had a decent amount of experiences with straight guys sexually. I preferred "straight" bars to gay ones and I would make my move on guys I liked. Sometimes it worked, sometimes it didn't. I had some experiences with former teammates and fraternity brothers, but I guess that's kind of like cheating.

 

[beltboy]

Why is that cheating??? Sounds legit to me...

 

[Kimahri]

Why is that cheating??? Sounds legit to me...

As I'm not sure about this comment, I'm going to have to ask...are you being sarcastic?

 

[beltboy]

No, not at all....do you think its cheating because they were in regular and close proximity, or easy pickings?

 

[concupisys]

i agree with the previous comment that someone made about sexual orientation vs. social identity..... what's going on inside someone's head and heart is much different than how they actually present themselves to the world.... it can cause a lot of confusion, and in some cases can also keep someone 'closeted' about aspects of their sexuality because who they are socially is just way too incongruent.... hence why so many 'straight' guys will seek out their gay sexual experiences on the down-low....

i was with a guy once who identified as 'straight', and that didn't bother me so much.... what did bother me is the fact that he was married and didn't have the guts to say anything.... he even took off his wedding ring before we got together.... i really don't care if someone is straight-identified and wants to have gay experiences, but i will not participate in that experience if it means lying to and cheating on someone.... in that particular experience it was actually 2 people because he was cheating on his wife and lying to me about it.... i only found out he was married because he inadvertently mentioned it in passing as we were laying in afterglow in his hotel room....

but i digress: i won't get involved with a gay man who is in a relationship either.... gay life and gay sex is complicated enough with single people..... i do not need the looming shadow of guilt in knowing that i aided someone in cheating on their partner.... it's simply not worth it.....