Gay guys, HIV and barebacking ..questions..

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Bug chasing is no myth, though not as main stream as many would like to think. No one wants to believe it, but people put gerbils up their ass too. Fringe and extreme, but it happens.

This hits close to home though. I'm HIV negative, my partner is positive. My comfort level with it comes and goes. He was married for over 20 years, and has three great adult kids. He says he's disappointed with his daughter for becoming pregnant out of wedlock. He's disappointed with his sons because neither of them are married yet, but encourages them to get as much pussy as possible, and to always wear a condom.

Part of my own anger comes directly from this. I have a hard time understanding how a father can beat this into his kids and at the same time totally discard his own teachings in favor of his sexual pleasure to the point of becoming positive. I struggle with that, and it makes me angry.

Over the years I've lost many friend to HIV and all of them chose to have bareback sex instead of wearing a condom. One friend was a total whore and slept with anything that would look at him. He tested frequently, but was always negative. He finally met someone and settled down with him. The guy hid his HIV status, and within a year my friend was positive as well. No guarantee that he got it from this one individual, but he seems a likely candidate. Another became sexually active in his early 20's, and picked it up from one of his first sexual encounters. Just a simple moment of lust and he dies a long horrible death from it.

I understand being caught up in the moment, but at some point people need to think.... yes, condoms are gross, inconvenient, smell bad, taste worse, and leave you feeling numb. Bare sex is hot, more natural, feels a whole lot better and allows sex to be more spontaneous..... but condoms are cheaper than HIV, and a lifetime of sex is a nice trade-off.
 

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a guy can be poz and yet be undetectable. also some have dig strans of hiv. being hiv poz is not what it use to be. But no matter what.. every one should be treated as if they are poz. one can be trusted. A friend of mine started dating a guy... one was infected 9 months a go and did not know it. then infected his bf. The bad thing is that if your infected then it can stay dorment for weeks to months or longer. If you have sex, then get tested every few months.