Gay guys know more????

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  1. jaimer

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    This is not meant to be offensive, but is it just me or do gay guys assume they know more than straight guys about sexuality? From many of the replies in these forums is makes it seem that way. Again, I'm just making a statement based on what I've seen.
     
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    Gay men discuss sexuality from a different perspective. Consider the following:

    1. Since he has sex with other men, a gay man has a better idea of what other guys are actualy like sexually (sex drive, size, performance, etc.), and knows how he stacks up. Straight men for the most part see just distorted impression from porn, other guys bragging, or what they may glimpse in the locker room. So, gay men may be a bit better informed about some things, but are also largely ingorant about others.

    2. Gay men are much more likely to discuss sex in great detail with each other, with complete comfort. If a straight man starts discussing his cock with another guy, he might be afraid someone wiould think he was queer. A gay man knows he is queer, so ther's no stigma to such frank and open discussion.

    3. Porn, and the discussion thereof, tends to have greater acceptance in gay relationships. For example, I don't know of any hetero meatrack bars that show porn videos, but it is commonplace, even expected, to have porn at gay bars.

    4. While there are many monagamous gay couples, 3-ways, group sex, and related promiscuity is probably more common, and better accepted, among gay men. This isn't because they are gay; it's because thay are all men. But it does mean that gay men have the possibility of having a wider range of sexual experiences.

    5. In the hetero world, it just isn't polite or proper to talk about certain things. Many gay men suffer no such inhibitions about sexual topics. Again, probably because they are all men.

    6. Inaccurate as it may be for most, there is the gay stereotype of life being non-stop sex. For those who feel obligated to live up to the stereotype, there is incentive to talk a lot about sex (even if they are not actually getting it).

    7. There is probably a better acceptance of kink among gay men. After all, when you've been told that copulation done the only way possible for you is an "unnatural act," it puts a different perspective on anything else you might want to try.

    8. Gay men are probably more receptive to a more complex view of sexuality. Consider the conservative, often religion-intertwined, one_man---one_woman, and anything else is an atrocity view of hetero sex. Gay men realize that they are different from this mold. Therefore, this view of sex cannot be complete, because if it were, there would be no such thing as homosexuality. Therefore, human sexuality must in reality be a lot more complex than the basic conservative hetero view. And if it is more complex, there is a lot more the explore and talk about.

    So, in some areas the more sexually active gay men probably do have a broader range of experiences than the average hetero guy. But, the are also much more comfortable talking about it, and are therefore more likely to do so.
     
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    So well put. Interestingly, just Monday, I was discussing this very fact with a hetro colleague. I had friends over for Thanksgiving, all gay, and of course sex came up as it always does. The colleague asked if we talk about sex all the time since he finds sex is rarly ever talked about in his circles. I replied I think we (we) learn more and read more and research more. JMHO.
     
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    Yeah live with it, Gays are just better.
     
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    It's so interesting, I have straight male friends who ask me about sexual issues all the time. I even feel like I know WAY more about the female body than the absolute majority of straight men do. I have found myself explaining to quite a few guys how to have sex with a woman so she actually gets some sensation and enjoyment out of it. I guess part of it is the fact I have a breadth of sexual knowledge is because women don't have any qualms about discussing their sexualities very frankly with me since I'm a non-threatening gay man. Also, I just pay attention and love absorbing new information of any kind. Like EricBear also said, gay men tend to be very unabashed about sex and discovering their sexuality with almost no hangups too. In turn, we also share our findings with friends, again, because we're very open and unashamed of our sexuality and sex lives.
     
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    ericbear you clever thing, you :wink:
     
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    Men who fuck other men know more about men... period. They know more than their own experience as a man. Gay guys also tend to talk to women a bit different than a straight guy. Women typically are also more honest with a gay guy, because if your straight its not your business unless you get some, and if you get some she has a vested interest in your opinion of her which may change if you hear how she really feels. It is what it is.

     
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    This should be in a sex textbook.

     
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    wot he said.
     
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    I would add as footnotes to ericbear's post: Gay men by nature and experience are bound to understand male sexuality far better than straight men will ever understand female sexuality, as in addition to having sex with men, they themselves inhabit a male body and a male psyche, so understand it from the inside and the outside. Furthermore, many gay men have significant open sexual experience with women before coming to terms with their preference, unlike their straighter counterparts who may have experimented with men, but in a more limited and covert manner. And gay men just have more sex and more creative sexual experiences.

    I also think gay men are more open and curious in general and have a wider range of interests than straight men, who tend to limit themselves to pursuing socially prescribed 'macho' roles and interests. Just face it, straight boys will never be as cool as gay boys. Don't be jealous.
     
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    Damn! I want to be a gay boy! Where do I sign?
     
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    Well we could make you an honorary gay boy, or you could be the sort of woman gay boys adore and treat like a princess. Which would you prefer?
     
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    We THINK we know more about sexuality! We know plenty about fucking and sucking with other men. That stuff some straight women talk about with us is usually on the relationship end of things...endless blahblahblah about men. They lie and misrepresent themselves sexually with us as much as they do with eachother and hetero men!:wink:
     
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    :scratchchin:I've weighed up the pros and cons and, on balance, I'd rather be the latter and stay a women. That way I get to keep wearing my Louboutins.:biggrin1:




    ^I guess not all gay boys are cool.:rolleyes:
     
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    Don't be surprised if I have to bust a stereotype, but I had to google Louboutins.

    Now that I'm up to speed, I'm ready to go shopping. What do you think?

    These? These? Maybe these?

    Sad, but true. He's having his membership revoked. :wink:
     
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    Wow! I caused max to 'google'. *insert slightly surprised but altogether rather pleased with myself emoticon*

    Those Loubs are all delicious but I'll take the boots. :love: I've written to Santa requesting these beauties, but if you see him there's no harm in a reminder.
     
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    Yes, while I may have some sophistication, I'm afraid I'm not that good with all the metrosexual trappings.

    Did my gay quotient just drop ten points? :redface:

    However . . . I can recognize a classic when I see it. Not surprised you went for the boots, sleek and sexy.

    How about these Mod numbers?
     
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    Now that you have had an introduction, it's time to learn your craft!
    YouTube - How To Spot FAKE Christian Louboutin's
     
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    Okay, thanks. So this is why I'm not so Metro, I guess. I could only stand about 2 mins. of her 'seminar'.

    I think I'll stick with my hiking boots (Vasque) and my cowboy boots (Lama's, baby).
     
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    I had to phone a friend from the Gay Police on this one. :cop: The punishment is that you have to hand in your gay badge and live life as a hetero for the next 5 days. I know! It does seem a harsh sentence. I will be disappointed if I'm not in receipt of a flurry of "nice tits, hun" PMs from you forthwith.

    :biggrin1: I got to 2 mins 45 secs. She's so annoying! I think it's best that I take Nudey shopping with me so he can point out the fakes.


    I'm considering whether to sell my mother so I can purchase these.
     

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