Gay Guys Only: If you fuck bareback why do you do it?

Why do you bareback?


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It's difficult to see how some people are willing to risk getting a disease just because they've fooled themselves into believing that sex feels better without a condom. Even worse, knowing that there's a lot of people out there who have STDs who don't care enough about themselves or the person they hook up enough to warn them that they may be contagious. I've had a few people try to stick my dick inside of their ass without a condom on and it's an instant turnoff to me. As much as I may love to fuck (or get fucked) by someone, I'd never suggest doing it without taking proper precautions. No matter how intense the sex is, it's irresponsible to allow yourself to get so caught up in the moment that you fail to use any level of common sense to protect yourself and the one you're with. So many people want to engage in adult activity, yet don't want any of the responsibility it brings.

I guess if two adults agree to engage in BB and they're willing to accept the risks associated with it, then so be it. Beyond that, I really don't see any reason to justify it.
 

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Self-righteous ranting and judgmental attitudes about others regading sex practices--on a large penis suport group site! Now I've seen everything.

It's called opinions. Nobody said they were right or wrong.
On a board like this and with a topic that is so controversial, you'd expect everyone to agree or play nice? The comments on this thread could have been a lot worse.
 

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^OK, fine. I'm new here, and I'm still trying to get a grip on (oops, did I say that?) the way this site works. So far, I'm enjoying it wholehardon--I mean, wholeheartedly.

Still, I bet if we conducted a poll, we'd get quite a few anonymous (and some not-so-anonymous) barebackers. And I don't necessarily believe that when two adults agree to have sex withour condoms, they are being irresponsible. After all, we weren't born with a rubber coating on our cocks, so it would seem that we are meant to use our penises as Mother Nature intended--at some point in our lives.
 

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Still, I bet if we conducted a poll, we'd get quite a few anonymous (and some not-so-anonymous) barebackers. And I don't necessarily believe that when two adults agree to have sex withour condoms, they are being irresponsible. After all, we weren't born with a rubber coating on our cocks, so it would seem that we are meant to use our penises as Mother Nature intended--at some point in our lives.

Mother Nature didn't include eyeglasses for us either, so maybe we should stop using vision correction?
 

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For those of you who are old enough to remember the time before AIDS, bareback fucking was the only way to go. Having a load of cum shoot deep inside you feels like nothing else. And to shoot bare inside an ass was everyday back then. Do I still bareback? Yes, give and receive. Am I taking risks? Yes, no matter how well I know the person.


Thats just crazy-Aids is REAL:confused:
 

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Mother Nature didn't include eyeglasses for us either, so maybe we should stop using vision correction?

Ridiculous analogy. So are you actually saying that under no circumstances should anyone in this world have unprotected sex? The problem is: none of us would be here if that were a reality. Or are you actually suggesting that perhaps it's alright for married/monogamous heterosexuals to enjoy sex without condoms; whereas, two gay men should never get to the point where they choose to have sex without the use of contraceptives, because they are putting each other at risk.

A lovely double standard.
 

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I have a stake in this argument. I have been HIV+ for over twenty years and have no intention of ever wearing a condom again.

I am a strict serosorter, which means that I only fuck fellow poz guys. I haven't even had an oral-only encounter with anyone who claimed to be negative in over three years. Serosorting, however, only works between poz guys. There is no such thing as negative serosorting, period.

I became sexually active in the mid-seventies, when I was a teenager. There was no knowledge of HIV then, and no one I knew wore condoms. When it seemed as though everyone around me was dropping like flies in the 80s, I like many others ran to the "safety" of relationships, but it was no guarantee of safety as it turned out, and I have buried three lovers.

I am certain that there are many among the members here who have successfully integrated safer sex practices into their sexplay, people who have learned to sexualize condoms. I never did,

To me, condoms were always a necessary bother. Whether I put them on myself or had help from the bottom, it was always pretty much the same thing: a break in the action just when I least desired one. There was never a moment when I would put on a condom that I wasn't reminded of why they were so necessary. And I'll go on record as saying that such reminders were never affirmations of the positive, life-affirming possibilities of a strong libido.

In the time that I've been serosorting and forgoing condoms (about three years now), I've had an incredible reawakening of interest in sex, and have explored aspects of my sexuality I'd put away in mothballs years and years ago. I've had some wonderful encounters with some incredibly sexy men.

But I've also suffered the pain and humiliation of two UTIs, one mouth infection that nearly cost me three teeth, and one bout with MRSA that almost cost me a leg. No one has to remind me of the risks involved in engaging in unprotected sex.

It's been just about a year since I've indulged in some of the crazier antics I've written about in my blog, The Spin Cycle. I am taking some time to sort out priorities. But even if I've been less sexually active lately than at other times in my life, I've hardly been celibate. And I refuse to feel criminalized by others for my sexual activity.

If I seem a tad nihilistic, I guess I am. I honestly never expected to reach 30. I was shocked when I made it to 40. At this point, 50 seems like pretty much a sure thing (barring the proverbial bus), though I've learned to keep my aspirations simple and my goals few.

Just as I am unapologetic as regards my own behavior, I am sharp and on-point as regards a sex-positive HIV prevention message. I would never suggest that a neg bareback with a hook-up. I don't even encourage fellow poz guys to follow my lead. Everybody's got a brain (the largest sex organ, after all), and everyone can think for themselves. Life is all about taking educated risks. And ultimately, each of us is responsible for his/her own health.
 

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Ridiculous analogy. So are you actually saying that under no circumstances should anyone in this world have unprotected sex? The problem is: none of us would be here if that were a reality. Or are you actually suggesting that perhaps it's alright for married/monogamous heterosexuals to enjoy sex without condoms; whereas, two gay men should never get to the point where they choose to have sex without the use of contraceptives, because they are putting each other at risk.

A lovely double standard.

:rolleyes: Don't recall saying that. I recall responding to your ludicrous position that because condoms are not natural, we should not use them. Condoms should always be used outside of a monogamous relationship. Within a monogamous relationship, I make no judgment calls - it's up to the individuals involved. But people randomly fucking without condoms is dangerous and should not be condoned.
 

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Not a very good comparision.

a.) A different more high risk population. Gay men typically have more
partners than straights which can dramatically increase risk.
b.) Vaginal sex does not carry the same risk as anal sex.

Have you been living under a rock for the last 25-30 years? :rolleyes: Straight people can and do get HIV and everyone is at risk for it. I know a lot of people like yourself seem to think that HIV is a disease that only junkies (IV drug users) and gay men get but straight people are just at risk for it even straight men.
 

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Am I the only one who seems to see a slight undercurrent of homophobia in some of the topics lately?

ALL people have sex...gay....bi...straight....old...young...

and neither is 'right' or 'wrong'