Yesterday was a brilliantly warm fall day here in Burlington and today we saw a lot of gay families. Vermont has more than its fair share of gay couples because it is one of the few states to extend complete marriage rights to gay couples. That and it's the most left-leaning state in the country. It got me thinking about how many gay people, partnered or not, want to have children. Unlike lesbians, gay men can't do this on their own and too there is the question of relationship status, income, lifestyle impact. Do you adopt or find a surrogate? Do you ask a female friend? I'm 41 and have thought about having kids. I find the older I get the more I welcome the idea. When I was young I told myself I wanted to be a young father but, sadly, that did not come to pass. Now I don't know if it will ever happen but I'm not all that disappointed... yet. It is comforting to know that I will be able to father children at any point should I decide I want to. Are you a gay dad? and I don't mean daddy :tongue: Have you thought of having children? What is your stance? Would you wait to be partnered first? Would you be willing to move to a state where you and your husband would have equal legal parental rights? Do you even want children? Most importantly, what brought you to the decision you've made?