Gay, hung, but bottom?

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  1. gaycambs21

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    I was just wondering how other people in my situation feel about this. I'm gay and have quite a large cock, but I prefer being bottom rather than top. There must be others out there who can relate to this.

    Anyway the issue is that I always measure guys against my own size. I really like the guy I'm with to have a bigger cock than me. I guess it's just part of the whole psychiatry of being a "submissive" bottom. But the problem with being hung myself is that it's hard to find anyone who measures up.

    It never used to be such a big deal, as long as the guy was good looking and average sized I could enjoy it, but now I'm really starting to find that unless he is bigger than me it just doesn't do it for me. Sex is getting boring. Do you think I should just give up and learn to be top instead?
     
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    Would like to help you out!!!

    Now change the avatar for something unique!
     
  3. fortiesfun

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    That or live with the odds. There are not a lot of tops out there in the first place. Many of the ones that are out there would enjoy topping a guy with a large cock, but if he has to be bigger than you, then you have to realize that the pool of eligibles is statistically pretty tiny. Seems like you have control of the variable here, however, and it is the problem that everyone who's standards are very, very high. They are often lonely.
     
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    That's quite common. I have a friend that's bisexual and he's very big and he's mainly into receptive anal sex and he's big into hung men too.

    If you like receptive anal sex, why change it?
     
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    SO how big are you? I like big dicked bottoms and would be glad to help you out. am I bigger?
     
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    To me, dick size is not that important as you describe. My partner must be cute, I mean super cute like Zac Efron or Daniel Radcliffe.
     
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    Can you learn to be a top? I don't think so or otherwise you would have tried it long ago. If you want a big dick top get out there and advertise for it. Get more info in your profile. I'm sure there are plenty of men here on LPSG more than ready to fill your dance card (so to speak). Good luck, buddy!
     
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    I've said it before and I'll say it again - everybody's a bottom.
     
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    i know what you mean. i hooked up w/ this guy who claimed to be a top once, but once the pants came down he said "do you wanna fuck me?" and yeah i guess i dont go all crazy over guys who have pretty big dicks because mine is pretty big too. for me to be really surprised about a guys size he would probably have to be pretty huge. i mean dont get me wrong, i love non-huge dicks too :p, but they wont get that same reaction that some of the guys seem to expect
     
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    I understand the stereotypical "disappointment" that gay men express when they find a man who is hung and likes to bottom. That being said, I am not sure I understand the need to be topped by someone bigger. I have been topped by guys who have smaller cocks than I do (actually, I have never had a cock either longer or thicker than my own in me) and have had an awesome time. I have also (based on averages) been the bigger man when I topped. Do you think it could be a mental (sexual fantasy) issue? Do you think the guys with whom you are having sex are just not that great in bed? It sounds to me like you may want to try to figure out why the top being bigger is erotically significant for you, rather than trying to change your position preferences.
     
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    That's why to me, VERSATILE GUYS are the REAL turn on! They're willing to give as much as they receive and I LOVE THAT!
     
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    Not true. One of my best friends here and one irl are complete tops and absolutely never bottom.
     
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    It's mostly a mental thing, or at least for me it is. The physical feeling of being topped by a bigger guy is one thing, but the mental arousal drives me crazy. I take it further, in that if the guy is bigger than me in both physical stature and cocksize, "and" he's a total top...my arousal level gets so high it's scary, and the sex is mindblowing. It's extremely difficult to find a man that can invoke this level of sexual arousal in me, but it has happened in the past, and once you've been brought to such a high, any other sex you have seems boring, just as the poster described. You find yourself constantly searching that feeling again, but it doesn't come around often, or maybe never again.
     
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    Right on, man! :frown1:
     
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    I don't really get why any gay man would be strictly top or bottom. I get preferring one over the other but to completely rule out the one seems like you're passing up on half the fun you could be having in bed.
     
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    Not everyone's wired for anal sex or enjoys giving it and getting it.

    It's not a requirement when you have sex with another man at all.

    I've given it with fingers/toys and that can be fun but I don't need to do it and when I've experimented getting anal sex that way both alone and with men I did not get any pleasure from it at all.

    When I was younger as a teenager and first understanding that I was into sex with men and women I did not want to give or get anal sex at all and the idea was not a turn on and totally grossed me out at the time. Even still to this day it's not something that I need to do and sometimes I'll get so turned off to the idea of it that I don't want to see it in porn where it's all edited and so scripted, and just the idea of doing it to someone is a total turn off. It's not like this for oral sex at all. The same goes for bondage/SM/B&D and other kinks like W/S (piss or watersports) as I've fantasized about them since I was very young.

    I've had relationships with men who are tops or just into giving anal sex and it works out fine since we just do not do anal sex.

    Some men prefer to bottom or be submissive for oral sex as a cocksucker or to top or be dominant for it as a feeder. Some men like to be a switch for it and 69 a lot.

    I've done all of these things for oral sex, and enjoy them all.

    Then there are bondage/SM/B&D (bondage and discipline). You can be a Top, Dominant, Switch (enjoys getting some sensations and giving others), Bottom, or Submissive. There are other terms like Daddy/Master/Sir but those are usually used for TPE (total power exchange) where you own someone or they own you, all safe, sane, and consensually of course, which is something I'd be very picky who I did that with.

    I'm a switch for bondage/SM/B&D but that's because I've been a bottom/submissive for bondage/B&D and a Top/dominant for giving SM. I've reversed both roles and I enjoy all of it.

    I sometimes even like to Top from the Bottom or when I am bottoming/being submissive I'll get the person giving me bondage/SM/B&D to do it how I want it or to use certain things to paddle me with or tell them to do it harder! I also enjoy dating mostly vanilla men and having them tie me up or spank me. I once even got my heterosexual friends to whip my denim clad ass with thin branches until it stung! They stopped once they realized it was turning me on. :mad:
     
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    I prefer being versatile in bed. Get the best of both worlds.
     
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    I agree that versatility has its advatages. I am glad I learned to enjoy bottoming.

    Question I get sometimes: Are you a top or a bottom?

    Answer: YES!

    Ah, I see. It's in your head but the physicality of it plays a big part in setting off the mental fireworks. Interesting.
     
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    I am also a total bottom and also very well hung. I am not a size queen, but the problem I often have is getting guys to top me...they think that if they're small to average they won't please me or something, and often guys see my dick and suddenly want me to top. My ex was average (5-6 in) and it was awesome sex...I'll take any size dick as long as the dude is sexy and willing to fuck me!
     
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    I have been a top since I was 12, I simply plugged any hole I could, only occasionally did I bottom which I enjoyed some. As I aged and I could no longer keep it up... I because an oral whore and a total bottom, I learned to enjoy all aspects of having a cock up my ass. Interestingly, I have sex with guys who are horse hung and yet the guys who tripped my trigger had about 5" and thick.

    I have always wondered why the guys with 8", 9", 10" or more are bottoms. I'm a certified massage therapist and I see a lot of men naked, and nothing turns me on more that a nice 9"er swinging in the breeze and I can just imagine how good that cock would feel pounding inside my ass. Some will top me, some won't. I just always wondered why it was that way.
     
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