Icey: I am a 28yr old gay male "Cub" bottom, who is currently involved with a wonderful 40yr old "Bear" top guy who has a large and thick 8 inch length, 7 inch width penis. My problem is that my anal hole is so small and tight, that it hurt's like hell when he tries to go inside me, and after some really painful minutes of getting him inside, once he is inside, it hurts so badly when he starts pumping, that we have to stop after just a couple of minutes, and I make him come either with my mouth or my hand. I really hate the fact that I can't take him in me, even with alot of lube and time. Nothing seems to help me, not taking deep breaths or relaxing, not even taking a Valium or pain pills before sex. We have tried most of the lubes on the market, but nothing seems to help. I really care about fulfilling his sexual needs, and am totally frustrated with myself for not being able to handle a large penis like his, and am afraid eventually he will get tired of me not giving him what he wants and just move on to someone with a bigger hole who can take him. Help! Does anyone know where I may be able to buy some super strength desensitizing lubes? Something that will numb my anal hole long enough to enjoy him pumping into me, but not feel the incredibly bad pain from entering me? And when I say pain, I mean PAIN! So bad that I can't even enjoy any part of him being inside of me. I just know I can't be the only guy who is dealing with this, so if anyone knows anything that might help me, please post it here or email me directly at: Babyboy1231@yahoo.com I really want to make my guy happy and give him what he wants. It doesn't help that I have a very firm and round butt, which is one of the reasons he was attracted to me in the first place! There just has to be a product out there to help me. Thank you all for your help.