kracken: Growing up, I was always led to believe that marriage was a religous institution where two people come together in the house of the Lord to make vows to each other in God's presence.
To me, with America having a seperation of Church and State, it seems inconsistent that a city, state or federal official can marry anyone. It should be left up to the Preists, Rabbi's and other leaders of the religous community.
The Government shouldn't be allowed to marry anyone. Period.
Now, what the government can do is perform the vows but leave out the religous parts of it. Hence, any ceremony that the city, state or federal official would perform would NOT be a marriage but some type of civil union that both heterosexuals and homosexuals can have equality in. This way everyone gets the legal protections, just not the heavenly ones.
I've always thought that the gay community has been lobbying the wrong group. They should start lobbying the Churches, not the government for the changes.
But Marriage (capitol M) should only be performed be religous personnel, not a city, state or federal employee.
As for the Defense of Marriage Act (DoMA), if people are really so concerned about the sanctity of Marriage, this is what needs to happen:
1) Do away with Annulments.
2) Only allow people to be married one time. Now a days, it seems that the first Marriage is the trial Marriage. The second Marriage should work out but I'll get it right by the third Marriage.
3) Start to prosecute everyone who is having affairs. That'll kick the infidelity rate in the balls (Yes, I know that women cheat too, just work with the analogy here people).
4) Get the religous leaders to start cracking down on pre-marital sex. Something's got to be saved for the honeymoon (Yes, I have a friend who has been engaged for 9 months without having sex with his girlfriend). He has 4 more months to go before the marriage. Needless to say, he has lots of pent up energy.
5) This goes back to number 3 & 4 but deserves it's own category. Make swinging illegal. GASP! I'm an adult and can choose to have sex with other willing couples if I want to. Remember DoMA? You marry one person, not that person and your social circle. You're only allowed to insert your male part into your wifes female part. Not any part that offers it up to you. Women, feel free to insert strange male part into your female part to work with the analogy. Trying not to be sexist here. Heaven Forbid!
I think you guys get the message. It seems assinine to defend Marriage from the homosexuals, if the heterosexuals are trashing it already (Britney Spears, I'm talking about you!).
The biggest threat to Marriage is from heterosexuals, not homosexuals.
Personally, I think that homosexuals would treat Marriage with more respect than heterosexuals just for the very fact that it has been denied to them all this time.
However, I still believe that Marriage is a religous institution, not a city, state or federal one.
And, in case I have anyone frothing at the mouth by this time, let me tell a little bit about myself.
1) Jewish
2) Republican
3) Conservative (I know it goes with Republican)
4) Gay
5) Deal with it.
Have a great day, people! ;D