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Just found out friends of mine and my parents that had been together for while and got married when they were 26 and 29.. they took and had a private marriage years ago .. not legal in the eyes of the government .. but to them it was real ..

..Jesse .. the younger one passed away last night .. they had been together for 63 years ( married 60 of them)
They had their disputes and disagreements.. like any other couple.. but they worked through it all..


So do you see yourself wanting to be with someone that long.. I am on 3 years with mine but if together for 60 years I’d be 113 years old and he’d be 84 … so prob won’t make it that long unless I live to be 113 ..


So do you see yourself with someone and marry them since it has become legal in a lot of states ?
 
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If you're in love with someone and you're planning to spend the rest of your life together, marriage makes all the sense in the world. You both contribute to a life you've built together, and marriage guarantees legal protections that an unmarried couple don't have access to. Since the original poster mentioned elder couples, Social Security benefits would not be granted to an unmarried spouse. Were one of you to be hospitalized, the other wouldn't have the right to visit or assist with medical decisions. And they could also be barred from making burial and funeral arrangements.

Gay, straight, it doesn't matter. If you've pledged to love someone until you die, you should get married.
 

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My husband and I have been together for almost nine years, and we've been married for four of those years. We have about as perfect a relationship as we could have, I think. Neither one of us sees an end in sight - apart from death - but we're practical guys and didn't vow to be married until death. Our vow was "for as long as our love shall last," because we know that love doesn't always last forever.

He is 25 years older than I am, but still youthful and active and has the benefit of good genes; most of the people in his family live into their 90s. My mother-in-law is still kicking at 89; my father-in-law only died three years ago. Frankly, I do not wish to live that long and only hope to be 60-something. I do not have the benefit of good genes; my mother died in her 40s and my father was barely 50 when he died.
 

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I’ve been with my bf ( now fiancé) for three years.. probably get married in march.. when winter time is over and all.. right now everything g a sheet of ice so now isn’t a good time

He wonders if my family accepts him for what he is.. as he still sees himself as a thing not a person.. (ftm ) so I let him talk to my mom and told my mom how he talks about himself .. she sat him down and had a nice little talk with him and my stepdad says same thing… and that is if both of us are happy she didn’t care who he was not what.. and told him she better not hear of himself that way again.. as he give him a spanking and start laughing.. he laughed to..


So hopefully he feels better about knowing how my parents feel about him ..

So we are just beginning our path.. but there is an age gap between us as well( he is 24 almost 25 and I am 53..

But I went to a bar one night and it was him that came to me… I will admit I kept on looking at him and he’d catch me looking… but I didn’t want to come off as a freak toward him..


And since I was 50 since we got together and he got over his fear of showing himself to me first time not to mention tell me he is ftm…. I never thought I’d be in love but room me all these years to find it..

I am glad you been together all them years so far.. but just remember anything comes along to cause a rift between you two.. work it out .. if truly love each other .. you will
 

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I have been in a monogamous relationship with my partner for almost 10 years.

I don't think we would get married formally. We are both very against religion and we don't see the point of a piece of paper. To each their own.

The best benefit of a long term relationship is the stability and certainty. You can make long term financial decisions with a double income.

Sexually, the benefits are that we can enjoy bareback without prep. We can explore our kinks to the fullest extent.

Like any relationship, we have had our fights but my advice is that if you meet someone who can put up with all your shit and you can put up with all of theirs, hold on to that relationship for as long as you can!
 

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I have been in a monogamous relationship with my partner for almost 10 years.

I don't think we would get married formally. We are both very against religion and we don't see the point of a piece of paper. To each their own.

The best benefit of a long term relationship is the stability and certainty. You can make long term financial decisions with a double income.

Sexually, the benefits are that we can enjoy bareback without prep. We can explore our kinks to the fullest extent.

Like any relationship, we have had our fights but my advice is that if you meet someone who can put up with all your shit and you can put up with all of theirs, hold on to that relationship for as long as you can!
A civil marriage has nothing to do with religion and it automatically includes very important rights that you should seriously consider.
 

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I am against religion of any kind myself .. guess you can say I been an atheist as long as I can remember.. anything religious disgusts me..

When my fiancé and I get married lord or god or anything like that won’t be in our ceremony ..

Sure it’s a piece of paper .. but in the future after we are dead and gone .. and people see how many gays were married in this time …. So it becomes more of a statement than just a piece of paper
 

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Just in the interest of sharing, my husband and I were legally married first, but me being a Wiccan (he's a deist), it was important to me to hold a handfasting ceremony. It was nothing extravagant; I acted as the priest of the ceremony and a handful of my then-coworkers witnessed it. Actually, some strangers witnessed it, as it took place in a public park.

When people say "religion," they usually mean Judaism, Christianity, or Islam. Neither of us is anywhere close to that.
A civil marriage has nothing to do with religion and it automatically includes very important rights that you should seriously consider.
 

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A civil marriage has nothing to do with religion and it automatically includes very important rights that you should seriously consider.
A civil marriage is what I meant by a piece of paper. Essentially it's a contract in the same way as a will or a power of attorney.
 

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I have been in a monogamous relationship with my partner for almost 10 years.

I don't think we would get married formally. We are both very against religion and we don't see the point of a piece of paper. To each their own.

The best benefit of a long term relationship is the stability and certainty. You can make long term financial decisions with a double income.

Sexually, the benefits are that we can enjoy bareback without prep. We can explore our kinks to the fullest extent.

Like any relationship, we have had our fights but my advice is that if you meet someone who can put up with all your shit and you can put up with all of theirs, hold on to that relationship for as long as you can!
I have been with my Hubby since 1978. And we too both felt there was no need for marriage; we had wills, powers of attorney, etc.

Once gay marriage was legal, we were asked by our long-term coupled friends to maybe have a joint ceremony. And when we scoffed at the need to marry, one of the partners was quick to tell us of the advice of his attorney.

Which is why we chose to be married. To protect ourselves and ensure the other would inherit everything upon the other's death. In the event a relative chose to challenge our wills, which could delay that process.
A civil marriage has nothing to do with religion and it automatically includes very important rights that you should seriously consider.
Yup! Good advice.

A civil marriage is what I meant by a piece of paper. Essentially it's a contract in the same way as a will or a power of attorney.
You might want to confirm this as it doesn't comport with what we've been advised by legal counsel.

All I'm saying is make sure that you are fully protected. And if marrying in a civil ceremony helps ensure that, I'd suggest you consider it. There was NO religion involved in our ceremony either. :)