What is they best gay meetup app if you are just looking to meet friends and not meet up for sex? I travel a lot and want to find people to go out to dinner with. But hard to do when you don't know your schedule well enough in advance and dont appear in the area until you are already there.
Gay Meetup App For Friends?
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I second Meetup although unfortunately there will always be those who will try to make it into something sexual when that was never your intent.
I’m sure it’s not the norm but I’ve used both Squirt and Grindr for non-sexual meetups.
I stated my intentions clearly and plainly and believe or not I had success. There are a lot of lonely guys out there and many were willing to meet me for dinner. Most guys are proud of their hometown and are thrilled to tell you about it.
I was in a particular city for several days so that made it easier to schedule dinners. I never had a dinner that became awkward at the end since we both had agreed it was dinner only.
If it turned out that more was desired by both parties that would be a decision you would want to have thought through beforehand. Seems to me it would be setting a bad precedent but it would ultimately be your call.
And to respond to @malakos regarding orientation, I have much more in common with a gay man my age than his heterosexual counterpart; wife and children being the two biggest although children are slowly becoming more possible in same sex couples. When I was doing this it was a difficult and different time to be a gay man.
I learned this firsthand as all my university friends got married and had kids. Bless them for inviting me to functions but it became more and more uncomfortable as I was the only single guy with no kids.
I stated my intentions clearly and plainly and believe or not I had success. There are a lot of lonely guys out there and many were willing to meet me for dinner. Most guys are proud of their hometown and are thrilled to tell you about it.
I was in a particular city for several days so that made it easier to schedule dinners. I never had a dinner that became awkward at the end since we both had agreed it was dinner only.
If it turned out that more was desired by both parties that would be a decision you would want to have thought through beforehand. Seems to me it would be setting a bad precedent but it would ultimately be your call.
And to respond to @malakos regarding orientation, I have much more in common with a gay man my age than his heterosexual counterpart; wife and children being the two biggest although children are slowly becoming more possible in same sex couples. When I was doing this it was a difficult and different time to be a gay man.
I learned this firsthand as all my university friends got married and had kids. Bless them for inviting me to functions but it became more and more uncomfortable as I was the only single guy with no kids.
I’m sure it’s not the norm but I’ve used both Squirt and Grindr for non-sexual meetups.
I stated my intentions clearly and plainly and believe or not I had success. There are a lot of lonely guys out there and many were willing to meet me for dinner. Most guys are proud of their hometown and are thrilled to tell you about it.
I was in a particular city for several days so that made it easier to schedule dinners. I never had a dinner that became awkward at the end since we both had agreed it was dinner only.
If it turned out that more was desired by both parties that would be a decision you would want to have thought through beforehand. Seems to me it would be setting a bad precedent but it would ultimately be your call.
And to respond to @malakos regarding orientation, I have much more in common with a gay man my age than his heterosexual counterpart; wife and children being the two biggest although children are slowly becoming more possible in same sex couples. When I was doing this it was a difficult and different time to be a gay man.
I learned this firsthand as all my university friends got married and had kids. Bless them for inviting me to functions but it became more and more uncomfortable as I was the only single guy with no kids.
I stated my intentions clearly and plainly and believe or not I had success. There are a lot of lonely guys out there and many were willing to meet me for dinner. Most guys are proud of their hometown and are thrilled to tell you about it.
I was in a particular city for several days so that made it easier to schedule dinners. I never had a dinner that became awkward at the end since we both had agreed it was dinner only.
If it turned out that more was desired by both parties that would be a decision you would want to have thought through beforehand. Seems to me it would be setting a bad precedent but it would ultimately be your call.
And to respond to @malakos regarding orientation, I have much more in common with a gay man my age than his heterosexual counterpart; wife and children being the two biggest although children are slowly becoming more possible in same sex couples. When I was doing this it was a difficult and different time to be a gay man.
I learned this firsthand as all my university friends got married and had kids. Bless them for inviting me to functions but it became more and more uncomfortable as I was the only single guy with no kids.
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This.
You won't chafe anyone's fragile ego if you make it clear right out of the gate, meaning unquestionably clearly stated in your profile blurb that you're Not interested in a hookup but rather just companionship for the night. A dining partner or just a coffee mate. If this is put out right there in your profile, the only guys who will ignore that point are those who go just by pic and never bother to read the profile. But there's still the discussing that might otherwise lead to a place to meet up and get jiggy but this time you just decide to meet up for coffee or dinner and can take the time to once again make it clear this is NOT a hook up for you.
If they bypassed the profile where you made this clear and they're being pretty insistent they are expecting a hookup, they'll probably drop it pretty fast, which you want. Don't waste much time on those who can't be arsed to even read a persn's profile.
On the other hand, those who DO read the profile will already know that this isn't your goal, that you just want to meet for a purely social engagement and are much more likely to fit your needs.
In the end, it's up to you to make your needs clear up front and weed through those who respond until you land on the right dude who is also good with a simple platonic meet-up.
Chances are HIGH that there will still be one or three lazy guys who you'll have to weed out because they will NOT bother to read a profile but the ratio of these should be pretty darn low.
Of the two apps mentioned above, Grindr and Squirt, I'd actually lean more to Squirt. Grindr, in my view, is much more strictly a hook-up app. Squirt seems more casual and relaxed.
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