Yes I did, and not because of being gay at all...
When I was in seminary I lived in Baltimore, Maryland (2 years).
Then I came back home.
My first two apartments were in my home town in a northwest suburb of Chicago. I was totally out and I had no problems. I did develop more friendships in the city, that's Chicago. So, I moved there and lived there for seven years. I loved Chicago and I thought I'd never leave. All of my family comes from Chicago and a majority of us live in the Chicago area. But the dotcom bust happened in Chicago as it was happening in the Bay Area and I didn't want to change careers. So I had to look into moving to places where others didn't want to live to find work in my field.
Then I moved to Davenport, Iowa because I got an offer I couldn't refuse. It was a much higher salary doing the same thing I had done in the dotcom world in Chicago (at one time called "The Silicon Prairie"). After 9/11/2001 everything changed and the market took yet another dive. In the beginning of 2002 my company had a loss and had to let go of we the contractors.
So, I decided to go back to school to become a therapist. Which is what I wanted to do since I was about 23 (I was 32 and living in Iowa when I finally made the decision. I found the perfect school for me and I moved to Oakland, California.
I, never in 1,000,000,000,000,000 years would have EVER thought that I would even consider moving to the San Francisco Bay Area, honestly. I am a Midwesterner at heart, even still. I still miss it. When I first moved here, I loved the school and that is what kept me here. I HATED this area. It was too expensive. The people were cold and superficial. The cultural depth is lacking here. And it's almost impossible to find anyone decent to date here. Sometimes it seems like anyone who might have anything together is out for sex only because there are so many choices here. And that leaves the crazy ones to date.
Thus, I'm single for the longest time I've ever been single in my life as an out gay man. I even had a lover in Iowa, and we still love each other and talk often. We miss each other very much. We never "officially" broke up. I had to leave because I had to go to school. He couldn't follow. He owned his own business and couldn't move it. He sold the business a while back, went back to New Orleans where he was originally from. He survived Katrina and now he resides in Green Bay, Wisconsin (because he got a sweet job offer there from someone who knew him and knew that he was on Louisiana with no prospects because of the Katrina devastation).
We would like to get back together. I have to finish my licensure (as a Marriage and Family Therapist) here in California because that will make it easier for me to get another license in another state if I choose to move to be back with him. He still doesn't want to leave the Midwest. He loves the Midwest and regrets having moved to New Orleans briefly. He has considered the possibility of moving here to California. But, it's ridiculously expensive to move here and neither one of us can afford to move him and I cannot support him here while he looks for work.
So, I stay here. I do have friends (finally) here who I dearly love. Two of my dearest friends are moving to St. Petersburg, Florida in June because they can actually afford to buy a house there, which is an impossibility here where real estate is priced beyond reality. So when they leave, I'm not so sure how long I'll last here.
I might try to convince my guy to move with me to Chicago where I know I could find work in my field because I still have connections there and my family is there. He likes Chicago and he could find work in his field there and he'd be happy because Chicago has winter (he loves winter).
Anyway, I have to say that being gay hasn't affected any of my decisions about where I live. I've never wanted to live in a "gay ghetto" with white guppies (gay yuppies). So I've never lived in Boystown in Chicago or Castro in San Francisco. I like living with everyone else, and I find acceptance no matter where I go. And yes, I find hate too. Then again, when I've visited Boystown and Castro are the times where I've experienced the most hate speech from straight people shouted at me randomly.
OK, this was long and rambly. I'll stop now...