Gay Men Having Kids Later In Life.

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The likes of Anderson Cooper and Andy Cohen have had kids later in life due to their career being their priority. By the time the kids 20 his dad would be in his 70 and won't get to spend quality time or do things together had he had him at 20. They most likely won't see their kids get married or have kids of their own. Do you think having kids later in lifes a good idea or in your 20s?
 

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We’ve only been able to marry for about ten years. On top of that it’s still exceedingly difficult for gay couples to adopt.
We are friends with two couples who would be awesome parents but here in conservative Oklahoma, they’ve been thwarted at every turn. These are successful and wealthy individuals who are considering a move in order to become parents.
I guess my point is that age right now may be more a function of accessibility than anything else.
Having volunteered in the fostering world, I can tell you that these kids just want a family and couldn’t care less about the age of their parents.
 
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The sexuality of the parents shouldn't make a difference and as someone said above, it's no different than the same-aged straight couple that adopts. It's amazing that question even gets asked today. There are plenty of women who have babies in a straight couple obviously that have babies in their 30's, sometimes late 30's. No difference.
 

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People are so sensitive. The OP asked a legit question. He’s asking about gay couples, not straight couples.

My thoughts, though. I’d be interesting to study why gay couples tend to have kids later. I can think of a few obvious reasons.
 

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In the 21st century, 60 is the new 45. Over half of us can reasonably expect to live into our mid-eighties. Cooper, Cohen, NPH and others will likely see their kids into proper, self-sufficient adulthood. That's all anybody can reasonably expect. It feels important to me that David Furnish is younger than Elton John, and can (to the extent anyone can plan for it) provide emotional and practical support when their kids need it.

I'm the product of older parents. Both my parents were over 40 when their eldest (me) appeared, and my father was pushing 50 when my youngest sibling arrived. When I was born in the late 1950s, neither expected to live the longer, healthier life that my generation can (to some degree) take for granted. And people starting families that late in life was rare.

Sample of one: Yes, I felt they underestimated the sheer physical demands which toddlers and kids place on parents. Not to mention family spirit. They quashed exuberance, belittled playfulness, and simply didn't enjoy the little rituals of life that centered around kids. They were set in their ways. I felt like I grew up middle-aged.

I'm inclined to think their attitude fit their generation, the Silent Generation. Both born into immigrant families in the shadow of WWI, coming of age in the Depression, and still building a home and family when others around them were dealing with teenagers. The instability and chaos of three kids under eight really upset them. And they certainly punished us just for being normal kids, from time to time.

But I don't think the same applies to Cooper and Cohen. IMHO, modern men are more flexible and intuitive. In the 21st century, both gay and straight fathers have become more emotionally aware, and emotionally literate. Our values are different. I have fewer misgivings about older fathers in our generation.

I note that Cooper became a father just as his mother's health began to fail. Did it remind him that the biological clock was ticking? And was it an emotional clock more than a biological one?
 
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