Gay Men Thinking That They're Gay When They're Really Straight

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Although it is talking about people going the other way, i.e. from men back to women, this seems to link nicely to another subject that has been discussed on here of middle aged men finding they're actually some degree of bisexual and can enjoy some fun with other men when their lives up until that point have been straight.

The term bisexual seems to be very ill-defined to me and the idea that someone who identifies as such needs sex with both sexes, if not at the same time at least within fairly quick succession, is a bit narrow. Then there's the view from some gay men that bisexual men are just men who have not yet accepted their gayness and the fact that much more is made in the media of people being gay rather than bisexual and you can see why there is pressure for people to declare themselves as either straight or gay when it isn't that simple.

So I think what this is all about is someone who has some degree of attraction to both sexes and is expressing/repressing different parts of that at different times in his life.
 

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I'm gay, but I can believe it. Some probably had certain experiences growing up that affected their development. Also, you'll see some "gay" men saying they would be with an FtM, when the whole premise of being gay is that you're exclusively attracted to men, hence the penis. The penis is kind of central to being a homosexual man.

Most older men who start having sex with men are typically very bored and are probably avid porn watchers too. This can seriously affect how their mind works. Also, most of these men do not bottom and are typically exclusive tops, whereas most gay men are some form of versatile.
 

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Older men tend to look towards bisexual activity because most older women either loose interest in sex, or play games with it. They miss getting their cock sucked and decide it's not such a bad idea to return the favor, in order to get sucked off. It seems that most men who have experienced mutual oral with a man enjoyed it and would do it again if they were comfortable with the other guy and no one would find out. Most guys I have discussed this with are not interested in being a top or bottom. They just want their cock stroked and sucked. They either have found they enjoy returning the favor, or that it's a fair trade off for receiving.

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Older men tend to look towards bisexual activity because most older women either loose interest in sex, or play games with it. They miss getting their cock sucked and decide it's not such a bad idea to return the favor, in order to get sucked off. It seems that most men who have experienced mutual oral with a man enjoyed it and would do it again if they were comfortable with the other guy and no one would find out. Most guys I have discussed this with are not interested in being a top or bottom. They just want their cock stroked and sucked. They either have found they enjoy returning the favor, or that it's a fair trade off for receiving.

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I noticed this too with men in the 40s and 50s++