It's not bout who they date outside work, it's about who they vote in real life, and it would be surprise to you how much of those straight men who gaybaiting and targeted queer ppl for money, end up voting anti-LGBTQ party and even homophobic.
It'll affect my rights, my livelihood in real life. So it's important where our queer money goes, not into funding homophobic ppl, not into support the exploitation of queer ppl attraction.
It's also about what they lie and how the lies affect queer community, when someone lied they're queer later to be found out straight, it pretty much fuck up an already fragile queer ppl worldview.
Queer ppl is already hard in real life, queer ppl don't have freedom like straight ppl when it comes to dating, like they can hit up anyone at anywhere. Even queer ppl in big liberal LGBT friendly city like NYC, Miami, LA, London, Paris can face homophobia very often, let alone hitting up stranger. No way.
Queer ppl are cornered, and no where to go, the only safe space is internet, LGBT community, and yet now the spaces are filled with straight men, and the worse is they lied, with layers of lies pretending gay/bi/pan until queer wouldn't able to tell the truth from the lies anymore.
The worst is those straight guy try extra mile to fake their sexuality and pretend to be someone wholesome and friendly, like your real gay friend, or truly attracted to you. He's so engaging and so good at acting.
And when i found out he's actually straight, have gf all the time he lied he's single and gay, and don't like queer ppl. It create these trauma, biphobia, that no man can be trusted anymore, bc when a straight guy faking so good to a point you believed him and don't suspect anything, to just find out he's str8, it distorted with my sense what's gay and what's not, what is real?
They made me lose trust even among queer.