Gay or Straight No still means No

Discussion in 'Relationships, Discrimination, and Jealousy' started by MrMXYZPTLK, Jul 2, 2011.

  1. MrMXYZPTLK

    MrMXYZPTLK New Member

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    How's everyone doing.

    Everyone hears the story about the guys that hit on girls. The girls say No, but the guy continues to hit on the girl, all night. Ussually until the girl leaves or the guys gets kicked out. Or in worse case scenario a physical fight breaks out.

    Here is my story. Yesterday night, a gay guy decided to hit on me. I am a very straight male, and I politely let him know that I'm straight and was not interested. He kept pushing and pushing trying to get me to be with him, until I had to be rude. I rudely asked him to back off, and he kept going.

    Finally I informed the bartender, and the bartender warned him to stop or he'll be asked to leave.

    I am not a violent person but I was temped to punch the guy out.

    Has anyone else ever has a similar experience of just PUSHY and ANNOYING gay people that just won't take a hint. I have been told by friends that say Gay people will try to convert you, and they won't take no for an answer, and they hover around you if they like you. Until last night, I have never met a gay person like that, and I must say it was very un-nerving and made me feel uncomfortable.

    So was it ok for me to become rude, should I have handled it differently, anyone have a similar experience, and how did you handle it?
     
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    Honesty is always the best policy in my book! Straight out tell him to back off. Your not interested. But that is a regular experience for women I would imagine. I'm probably guilty of myself, as are you presumably, but after a few drinks you don't realize you are doin it! The drink and the horn take over lol
     
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    Yeah, I'm probably guilty of it too. I guess it's different when your on the other end.
     
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    Makes you think twice doesn't it. I get hit on by guys all the time. Just say thanks for the interest, but not only are you barking up the wrong tree, you're in the wrong forest! Just try and take it as a compliment and think about how you act when your under the influence.
     
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    It is DEFINITELY ok to be rude when a person pushes you to that point. An adult in our society can't hit someone except in limited circumstances. Being highly annoyed is not one of those reasons, unfortunatelt. We've all been there but 99.99% of the time we hold back, like you did. It's not worth the legal hassles. Getting him banned from the bar did everyone a favor.
     
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    Absolutely. You repeatedly and politely said no but he kept pushing you. Eventually, patience wears out. You didn't punch him so I think you handled it very well. Kudos to you.
     
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    Definitely not cool that you got sexually harassed like that. Sorry to hear about your experience. However, a lot of men (not all) can be pushy when it comes to sexual advances. You just got the reverse end of what women go through with guys (sometimes). But it's not fair that you single out gays, and you might perceive he was "trying to convert you". That's a guess on your part.

    No.... the dude was def. in the wrong and also assuming you were not sending any 'yes' signals, he shoulda backed off and not had to be told a 2nd time.

    As far as your thoughts about pushy annoying gay people, that's an unfair jab to make. Consider first that he was a male, and 2nd he mighta had too much to drink. it's just male behavior (sometimes). i'm not defending his actions, he was wrong, but its not fair to jab at all because of one experience.

    Wouldnt you take a little offense if women told you that ALL MEN are guilty of sexual harassment? That's not fair to say and not true either. See my point?
     
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    It is ok to become rude when anyone, male female or other, straight gay or bi, becomes an annoying asshat. Just remember that not all gays ar like this just as not all starights men are like this with women, nor are all women innocent of doing it themselves. Latent assholeism=alchohol=asshat:biggrin1:
    The voice of reason and experience. thank you:smile:
    Good to know you recognize the possibillity in yourself. Will make you better overall. Too bad you had to experience it first hand, but you can take a positive away from it by not doing similar to a hot chick whn you are a little tipsy.
    You sir are a prince! If only you were gay and single...and i the states...*sigh*lol! I like that quip! cool!:biggrin1:
    I don't think he was making that assumption. i think his friends do (and thats not cool) but said he hadn't ever met anyone who fit that description before. And I dont know if convert would be the right word. Have him experiment would be more acurate. Sadly People can get pushy and stupid when they drink. As long as rthe OP knows this is not the norm, and applies it to his behaviour making him a better person (the women will thank you, OP) then ultimately it can be turned into a good thing. Hopefully the gay dude realised what a creepy fuckwad he was being when he sobered up, and wont repeat it again. With staright or gay people.
     
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    Now you know how women feel when too much alcohol has been consumed by an asshat.

    Get over it. Continue to be polite.
     
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    oh yes!
    imaging 10/night out and that's what being a woman is like.
    nobody should have that shit inflicted on them.
     
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    Have a wing man (or woman) around to help you with this stuff.

    Seriously, there are mega-creepsters out there. Think guys slipping ketamine in your drink and raping you. It happens, even to men. Don't take chances. This is something most women have learned over time, and it's why you almost never see a lone woman at a pub, bar or club.
     
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    Thanks for the words everyone.
     
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    Troll alert.
     
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    *reads OP's OP*
    *ponders.. senses something amiss*
    *checks gallery*

    :rofl:
     
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    I know that dick...Can't put my finger on it, but I know that dick! I may forget to put on draws, but I never forget a dick!
     
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