I was arguing today with my friends over wether or not being gay is a choice. My friends all think its a choice, but i do not think it is a choice. So please, gay guys and gals, you are the ones who realy know, what is the truth? My reasons as to why i think its not a choice. 1. I dont find men attractive. I could not just choose to start finding men attractive. 2. studys have shown that when a man looks at an attractive female, "sparks" go off in his brain, and depending on how attractive that female is, the more "sparks" you get. But im sure for a gay male, the same would happen but when looking at another attractive male. How can you choose to control when these "sparks" go off. 3. If a straight guy is paid 1000 bucks to make out with another guy, does that make him gay? I think not, i think what makes you truly gay, is a genuine attraction to members of the same sex. For example, in prison, there is a lot of homosexual activity, but are these men truly gay? Or are they just so sex depraved, that they are able to do gay things to satisfy thier basic needs for sex. I dont think they are actually gay, unless of course, they actually find other men sexually attractive. 4. Some of my friends wont believe its not a choice because of christianity, gays supposedly go to hell, well im athiest so this doesent do anything to my view, but i wonder, if being gay was a choice, then why would sombody who grew up with this religion, knowing that gays supposedly go to hell, sombody who is a devout christian, wich i know many gay people are, would be a good christian in every way, except for the gay part. What would be the point of following the religion if you knew you were going to hell for choosing to be gay? If it was indeed a choice, and you truly believed you would be eternally damned, then why the fuck would you make that choice? I think i had some more parts of my argument but i cant remember and i realy have to go now, but those are some reasons why i think being gay is not a choice. This is nothing against gays, i have no problem with gay people. I dont mean to offend anybody im sorry if i somhow did, im kinda new to forums but from what ive seen if you dont like sombodys topic you call them a troll, so please dont call me a troll im not trying to offend anybody, i just realy want to know from your point of view, the actual gay people, who know the real deal.