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My friend grabs and pinches my nipples a lot when he drinks.

He's straight I am 95% sure of this. But I've always thought this as fairly homoerotic.

He did it again last night at the bar and when I didn't flinch he goes, "Hey! You're getting better! You didn't freak out!"

One time I asked him about it and he was telling me it doesn't bother him and actually puffed out his chest to let me pinch his nipple. Last week or so he said again, "Do it! I don't care"

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Straight men, especially in America, have long suffered from not being able to be playful with each other physically. That seems to be changing, from what I read and hear, and I can see how it would be a bit curious, or perhaps even confusing.

Perhaps it's because my friends (most of them are straight men) and I have never had much trouble being physically intimate (hugs hello and goodbye, casual nudity, sitting next to each other instead of across the room), but it sounds to me like your friend is just playful when he drinks.

And if he is expressing some kind of internal gayness, it seems he recognizes that you're a safe person with whom to do so.
 

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In reality, it's probably teasing.

I wouldn't ever be that lucky to have something like this presented before me. Even if I was, I wouldn't know it.

The umpteen times it has happened, I played it off as an annoyance. I didn't want to be touched. Literally. I didn't think ANYTHING SEXUAL.

But then something happened. I couldn't tell what happened, when it did or why. But IT did.

I guess it was the time when I questioned my friend and he puffed out his chest and offered his nipple to be pinched after pinching mine. Saying, "I don't care. It doesn't bother me."

When that happened I actually started fantasizing about it. "It doesn't bother me". OKAY. Either it really doesn't bother you OR "I want you to touch me. Do the same thing I do." This is my camouflage for us touching each other.

I had already thought of my friend in that way in a number of different view points. This gave another avenue.

However, when it comes to the nipple pinching thing, all I think about my friend is pinching and or sucking his nipples in a bathroom while I rub him to orgasm through his pants.

I still can't figure it out. Why not the other stuff? Like getting gang banged by my two hot guy friends.

I suppose the fantasy derives from the fact the nipple pinching always happened in a public place, e.g. at a bar.

Thanks for the responses.
 
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john: i would have to say that you are definitely overthinking this.... titty-twisters are a common thing with guys who playfully tease each other, and i highly doubt that there is anything sexual involved.... the only real way of knowing that would be to try pinching his nipples and see if he has any reaction in his groin area.... to some men (and some women) it's like their nipples have a direct connection to their genitals and helps a guy get off when they have their nipples pinched and fondled.... your situation doesn't really sound much like what i'm describing, but you are best left not to dwell on it.... it would really suck to have something so trivial be misunderstood and suddenly having you do or say something that you will regret later on....
 

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I do this to a couple very good friends that I know enjoy 'good natured' nipple play done in a friendly manner, I agree with "titty-twisters are a common thing with guys who playfully tease each other, and I .... [definitely] doubt that there is anything sexual involved...."
 

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john: i would have to say that you are definitely overthinking this.... titty-twisters are a common thing with guys who playfully tease each other, and i highly doubt that there is anything sexual involved.... the only real way of knowing that would be to try pinching his nipples and see if he has any reaction in his groin area.... to some men (and some women) it's like their nipples have a direct connection to their genitals and helps a guy get off when they have their nipples pinched and fondled.... your situation doesn't really sound much like what i'm describing, but you are best left not to dwell on it.... it would really suck to have something so trivial be misunderstood and suddenly having you do or say something that you will regret later on....

I totally agree with the over thinking. I was drunk anyway when I wrote all that. Thanks all.