Gay relationship arguments

epilif

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My boyfriend and I have been living together for about 2 months, and we've been having frequent arguments, mainly because I don't trust him due to his past actions. I always try to know what he's doing or where he is. Our latest and biggest argument happened today, and I'm literally in bed crying as I write this. Essentially, due to my lack of trust, I went through his computer and found out he spent money on pornography, leading to the argument when he discovered I did that. The truth is, it's a lack of trust on my part, but I'm also upset that he spent money on it when we're trying to save for our home. I don't even know where I'm going with this; I'm just really scared about how this might end. We've talked many times about leaving our toxic behaviors behind, but it's been difficult for me as he has lied several times. I just want an opinion from someone completely external.
 

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What past actions has he done that made you untrustworthy of him? Hard to judge when not given all the details as everyone has their own opinion on what they believe is wrong or right.

But anyways, doesn't matter how long you guys been together, you should end it and here's why.

Your trust in him is not there. As much as you want to forgive and forget, it seems like you aren't capable of doing so. You haven't fully forgiven him for what he's done and it shows. Whatever was done by him has already sowed doubt into your heart and is now going to affect your relationship and future relationships unless you change. Every little thing he does, stays out late, didn't message you after awhile, always on his phone, everything will slowly drive you crazy until you, ta-dah, go through his computer and violate his privacy. I assume you guys aren't married so what he does with his money is his concern.

It's not going to end there either. You already show signs that it's getting worse. Whether or not he's trying to do better, be better, it won't be enough for you at this point. In my honest opinion, you should both go your separate ways. It'll save you guys the agony of being in an unhappy relationship now.

If you do want to try and save your relationship then you both should agree on couples counseling or whatnot. If either one disagrees then it's just over. Right now though, a house together is out of the question. It's only been two months living together and you guys are having all these issues. Focus on the actual problem at hand. Just remember, future relationships should be treated as new and not have the past affects it.
 
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