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Hello all,
Having never been to a gay wedding, or seen gay men dancing together in a formal situation, i have a few questions about the situations that must arrise. These questions have popped up in my head a few times, and although they don't stop me from sleeping at night, i thought i might look for some answers here. Any answers will be much appreciated.
1) When gay men get married, do they have seperate stag nights? how do they divide up their friends? Do they have them on the same night, forcing their friends to make a decision of loyalty, or do they stagger them, so that it's the same group going each night?
2) Again, at Gay weddings (or other parties - not necisarily gay). Being Scottish ceilidh dancing is important to me. I always feel that the party after the cerimony is the REAL wedding, when the two families come together, and taking the first dance is a big deal. I always feel bad for non-Scots, because a ceilidh is such a good thing for getting everyone up dancing, and mingling. Back to my point - how do you decide who leads? I don't just mean with ceilidh's, I'm sure there must be a point where you have to dedcide who leads which ever kind of formal (or semi-formal) dancing is involved. Is it whoever usually goes 'top' that leads int he dance? Or is it decided on height? Or do you take turns? Or in the case of semi-formal-no-steps-to-follow dances, is it a constant struggle of dominace like a vertical arm wrestle (i know this can happen when dancing with my straight female friends - when will they learn to just be lead?)?
3) Does anyone walk up the isle at a gay wedding? How do you choose who does it, and who's waiting at the top of the isle? Or if the church has more than one isle, do you both go down different isles at different times?
I'm sure i'll come up with more questons at a later date, but if anyone can help me with these ones, that'd be great.
Thanks
G
Having never been to a gay wedding, or seen gay men dancing together in a formal situation, i have a few questions about the situations that must arrise. These questions have popped up in my head a few times, and although they don't stop me from sleeping at night, i thought i might look for some answers here. Any answers will be much appreciated.
1) When gay men get married, do they have seperate stag nights? how do they divide up their friends? Do they have them on the same night, forcing their friends to make a decision of loyalty, or do they stagger them, so that it's the same group going each night?
2) Again, at Gay weddings (or other parties - not necisarily gay). Being Scottish ceilidh dancing is important to me. I always feel that the party after the cerimony is the REAL wedding, when the two families come together, and taking the first dance is a big deal. I always feel bad for non-Scots, because a ceilidh is such a good thing for getting everyone up dancing, and mingling. Back to my point - how do you decide who leads? I don't just mean with ceilidh's, I'm sure there must be a point where you have to dedcide who leads which ever kind of formal (or semi-formal) dancing is involved. Is it whoever usually goes 'top' that leads int he dance? Or is it decided on height? Or do you take turns? Or in the case of semi-formal-no-steps-to-follow dances, is it a constant struggle of dominace like a vertical arm wrestle (i know this can happen when dancing with my straight female friends - when will they learn to just be lead?)?
3) Does anyone walk up the isle at a gay wedding? How do you choose who does it, and who's waiting at the top of the isle? Or if the church has more than one isle, do you both go down different isles at different times?
I'm sure i'll come up with more questons at a later date, but if anyone can help me with these ones, that'd be great.
Thanks
G