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Are there any bottoms here that have been in long term relationships with other bottoms?
I have been in such a relationship for almost three years now. When we began I wasn't as aware of myself sexually, I thought I was a vers that desired a relationship of equality in the bedroom. I was able to talk him into topping me sometimes, but he doesn't really enjoy it, and a big part of the thrill of bottoming for me is the top's pleasure of having me. He likes making me happy, but that is the extent of his pleasure when he tops me. I'm beginning to feel like I must be the same way when I top him, and recently had an experience of being totally dominated with someone else and realized it's the most sexually satisfied I've felt in my life, and that I truly must be a submissive bottom.
We're sexually open. He's much more attractive than me so he tends to hook up all the time, though I really can't hook up for the life of me. The only men I've been with since being with him are other men he's all ready been with and that he introduces me to. Needless to say he's sexually satisfied with his life since he gets so many men, but I'm mostly alone without him and not feeling sexually satisfied and he has a tendency to still treat me like a top when I'm with him. he acts like there's an assumption that I'm the more likely top, though I don't agree.
I love him very much and I know that he loves me. It would be traumatic at this point to both of us if we chose to separate, and honesly I am considering marrying him, but I also really don't want to wind up in a situation where we're married and a resentment bubbles up in me over having such a big part of who I am be ignored, neglected, unseen and even unbelieved. I've all ready felt tastes of that resentment occasionally but I do my best to breathe past it because I would never want to take that out on him, he's been such a beautiful supportive soul in my life and he doesn't deserve that resentment.
Do you think its possible that this relationship could work? I'm especially curious to hear your story if you're a bottom who has married another bottom and have been with them for quite a long time without regret.
I have been in such a relationship for almost three years now. When we began I wasn't as aware of myself sexually, I thought I was a vers that desired a relationship of equality in the bedroom. I was able to talk him into topping me sometimes, but he doesn't really enjoy it, and a big part of the thrill of bottoming for me is the top's pleasure of having me. He likes making me happy, but that is the extent of his pleasure when he tops me. I'm beginning to feel like I must be the same way when I top him, and recently had an experience of being totally dominated with someone else and realized it's the most sexually satisfied I've felt in my life, and that I truly must be a submissive bottom.
We're sexually open. He's much more attractive than me so he tends to hook up all the time, though I really can't hook up for the life of me. The only men I've been with since being with him are other men he's all ready been with and that he introduces me to. Needless to say he's sexually satisfied with his life since he gets so many men, but I'm mostly alone without him and not feeling sexually satisfied and he has a tendency to still treat me like a top when I'm with him. he acts like there's an assumption that I'm the more likely top, though I don't agree.
I love him very much and I know that he loves me. It would be traumatic at this point to both of us if we chose to separate, and honesly I am considering marrying him, but I also really don't want to wind up in a situation where we're married and a resentment bubbles up in me over having such a big part of who I am be ignored, neglected, unseen and even unbelieved. I've all ready felt tastes of that resentment occasionally but I do my best to breathe past it because I would never want to take that out on him, he's been such a beautiful supportive soul in my life and he doesn't deserve that resentment.
Do you think its possible that this relationship could work? I'm especially curious to hear your story if you're a bottom who has married another bottom and have been with them for quite a long time without regret.