Gay saunas

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  1. rugger89

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    Would be interested to see peoples thoughts/views/stories on the matter (perhaps you met your boyfriend/partner there as the brochure suggested I would :D )

    So after much hassling by a friend and the promise of a glass floor (cool!) I agreed to go along to one of these gay saunas which for those of you who dont know is a sex venue where people pay an addmission and gain access to cubicles, glory holes, saunas, spas, dark rooms, porn lounges etc etc

    Although ill be the first to admit being surrounded by a large amount of naked men was somewhat of a turn on :redface: it wasnt really my cup of tea for the following reasons:
    a. i had to pay for it. I want my sex for free bitches!
    b. Im always paranoid about STI's so everytime someone was about to go down on me I always stopped them...which most likely would have led them to the conclusion I had some horrible and contagious penis condition :biggrin1: (which i dont, promise! *looks shadey*).Meaning i paid $25 for a handjob :(
    c. while most of the guys were rather polite some where just assholes. I got stalked once and another guy seemed to think no meant yes and i was playing hard to get so decided to get a little rough (nothing hardcore or scary, it was actually kinda hot :wink: )
     
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    I'm an old-school perv who went to his first bathhouse/sauna/tubs at the tender age of 18 in 1978, when STI were called VD and you couldn't catch anything a shot couldn't cure (or so we thought)*. As such, I find your musings on the matter, well...somewhere between coy and curious.

    a) You did not pay to have sex; you paid for a venue to have sex in. There's a world of difference.

    b) Your handjob exposed you to HPV, TB, MRSA and scabies: there's a reason why it's called "safer" as opposed to "safe" sex. All activity (social and/or sexual) comes with risks. Educate yourself properly as to potential issues and take whatever qualified, educated risks you feel safe engaging in.

    c) Accept that, at least within the confines of a sex club, men will want to engage you sexually. A coy "no" means "try and you'll see"; a firm, eye-locked "no" means "get the fuck away from me". I'm an aggressive, take-charge Dom, and even I can smell the difference between the two.

    *The baths in most of the US were closed by 1983 in response to the AIDS crisis. Once I started traveling internationally in my late 20s and 30s, I found that such was not the case in Europe, and would go as often as I could. Ft Lauderdale currently has three sex clubs, all of which I visit as the budget and mood permit.
     
  3. exwhyzee

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    My first official same-sex experience was in Sydney, and ended up in a sauna off Bourke or Flinders Street...I think. To cut to the chase...I met a guy in a bar on Oxford Street, he suggested we go somewhere else...and that someplace else ended up being a back alley...which was not too private...so we went to the sauna.

    Once I was there, I was so ga-ga over the guy and experiencing another guy's body that I filtered out my surroundings. I remember the cubical, I remember a big glassed in shower with stadium seating and guys watching us shower, and I remember a lounge with a tv...but aside from that I was too into the blond surfer with a goatee and six-pack abs to notice much of my surroundings.

    Later on in life, as I went to gay sauna/clubs/bathhouses, I always had sensory overload with too many naked guys wanting to do way more than I felt comfortable doing with them. I've gone with friends and ended up just being a spectator, and in Bbucko's reference to "no" means "try and you'll see", I must have a definitive icy glare that says "no means get the fuck away from me" because I've never been hassled. Maybe I just put off an aloof vibe.

    That all said, I haven't been to that kind of place in a very long time...and have little interest in changing that. On the other hand, I visited a real-live straight bathhouse in Europe a few months ago and I thought it was fantastic.
     
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