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I believe that part of why someone is gay is nurture so if a parent kicks a child out they're kicking him out for something they were partly responsible for - in other words I'd view them as scum, your kids are your kids and their sexuality isn't really any of your business in any case.

I knew there was a reason why I love you :wink:
 

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My son isn't gay but a friend asked me when he was about 8 what my reaction would be if he turned out to be gay, Why would she ask that?:confused: Was your 8 year old son wearing a dress and a pair of your pumps? as long as he was happy and the partner/s he was with treated him well I couldn't have cared less. He's my son and whoever he's sleeping with has nothing to do with why or how I love him.
That's how I feel one of my best friends is gay and we have known each other since the 2nd grade. We met in Sunday School. I stopped talking to him twice. Once when he joined the Young Republicans Club at college and once when he was addicted to coke and pills I tolde him to get out of my home and not come back until he was clean. Other than those two blips we have been fine. :cool:


I'm not sure where to begin with this, so I'll just jump in. Starting out - what do you mean by support? What do you mean by lifestyle? And now, for the grand finale, EDUCATE YOURSELF. I didn't choose to be gay, any more than you chose to be straight. It's just the way I am.

If I have you confused with someone else, I apologize in advance; but it seems that I recall several ignorant and offensive posts you've made in the past, regarding sexual orientation.

If by "support," you actually mean "approve," well, your approval is not required - nor even desired.

As lifestyles go, how's this one grab you? On Monday morning, I get up at 5:20 am, have a shower then a cup of coffee, go to work, earn money, pay taxes, get home about 5:00 pm, home, have dinner, watch a little TV, and go to bed. Rinse and repeat for Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, and Friday. On weekends, I catch up on chores - laundry, yard work, grocery shopping, a trip to Lowe's to get hardware to fix a leaky toilet. So, what's in this lifestyle that you don't "support"?

I am so glad you addressed this twit! I was going to; but doubt I could have done so as effectively as you have.
 

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I never actually told my mother. When I was 22 or 23 my sister told my mother. They were having an argument and sis brought it up in the context of how we the kids in the family don'tt tell my mother anything: "you don't even know your oldest son is gay." Mom never said a word and treated me exactly the same as she always had. Not the most affectionate woman, she still was the fun, caring, generous mom she had always been and still is. First time I brought it up was when I took her out to dinner for Mother's Day a few years later. I told tell her about a new boyfriend I really liked. She was happy for me, but happier still to tell me about her new boyfriend. Turns out the two boyfriends were only 6 years apart in age (mine older, hers younger). Fun and funny for both of us.
 

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when I was 15 I summoned up enough courage to tell my folks
so my mom said "I always thought so" which is not surprising because
she was largely responsible
and my dad said "be careful its dirty" which was kinda surprising because he was even more responsible than my mother but then my dad has always been perpetually hungup about everything
of course my parents were not the only reason I turned out gay
but for sure it wasnt a choice
and its not a lifestyle
and I dont need anyone's fucking approval to exist thank you very much

incidentally and more to the original point of this thread I have on a couple of occasions been thrown out of the houses of straight male friends by their mothers who imagined I was corrupting their sons by hanging out with them ... I'm sure they would have done the same to their sons if they turned out to be gay
 

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What's wrong with A.L.Webber songs? I love all the Phantom Of The Opera music, "Memory" from Cats and "No Matter What" from another of his shows (actually I forgot the name as I was typing!):biggrin1:

:) I like A.L.Webber but I cant stand "Sir/Lady" Elton John but I've had some str8 people try to tell me I was a self-hating gay because I dont like him (EJ). Really. thats how crazy the political correctness in canada is ...
 

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I know this thread isn't directed to the men, but as a Gay male I have some experience in the matter. Coming out to my parents was such a huge thing for me, and I was very lucky. Dad still has lingering issues, but my Mum was absolutely amazing and understanding. My Mum and I have always been extremely close so it was such a huge relief for me. After about a year or two of not saying anything I was able to share this huge part of who I was and finally feel like my Mum and I didn't have any secrets from each other again.

She told me she had wondered sometimes if I was (growing up their were signs apparently...) but knew I would figure out if I was in my own time and always hoped that if I was I would feel comfortable enough to tell her. She was a bit sad at first, more to do with the worry of me being discriminated against or hurt and maybe having a "toughter life" as a gay man as opposed to what I got up to in the bedroom, which I completely understand.

Now we have an even better relationship than before, I ask her for relationship advice and it has opened up a channel of communication where she feels she can talk to me about problems she has with my Father etc. Obviously there are things I don't talk to her about!! But in terms of emotions and love issues, she has been a great help and comfort to me in tough times. I am so, so lucky to have a Mum like her and actually would say to any Women in particular who may end up having a Gay son that you may be surprised once you get over the initial shock/worry/dissapointment that a relationship with a gay son can be an amazingly close and special bond.

Great post.
 

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I don't have a son and likely never will, but if I did, I at least hope I'd have the compassion and wisdom to accept him for whoever he was, and love him no matter who he loved.