Gay/straight friendship

[B_patrickmcc]

pretty complicated. I would say your friend is looking to you for sex, not necessarily for anything deeper. The fact that you two have messed around some, and that it took some time for it to proceed from jerking off behind to pillows to sword fights, to oral, would mean that he isnt all that comfortable with the idea of man/man sex, but he gives in with horniness and alcohol. My biggest concern is his wife. If she accepts him messing with you, then no problem. But if she is clueless, seems like to me you are really betraying your friendship with her, and possibly screwing up her future. I have no problem with people in open relationships, because thats what both agree to. Blowing your buddy behind her back tho is not ok. just my thoughts.

 

[sitharee]

This has got to be one of the most interesting threads on this board. From another point of view, I had a great relationship with a gay man (I'm straight) where we could talk openly and honestly about any topic, no limits. I truely enjoyed the freedom and trust we shared almost at once, and I'm convinced he shared things that were deeply held secrets.

We did not play in any way, but I found myself considering the idea, or at least unafraid of the potential.....

I'm not sure why this situation arose, and I do miss him. I guess more significant relationships (marriage, close friends) require protection and safeguarding, where as we knew if a line got crossed, it was fairly easy to walk away unharmed.

Good luck.

 

[Frnkd213]

Think of it as JO with a little extra. I'm sure your wife knows you JO without her. I watch porn without my wife to get off. Now that we're in our 50's her sex drive has decreased considerably and mine have not. She definitely knows it and is okay with what I do when she is asleep. With the Internet making all kinds of porn available, I am more curious now than ever, I guess because of my sex drive, about sex. I do respect our relationship where I do not think of pursuing any of my curiosities. except one, experiencing a blow job from a guy. I often wondered what it would be like from a fellow bro who in my opinion has the same feeling needs down there and can be instinctive about where all the best places to touch are. Or it may just be that my wife is just not good in giving head? She is good in my opinion, but am I missing something? That is my bi-curiosity.

Your friend, mostly when drunk it seems, must be okay with all that is happening. I would say share your thoughts and feelings with him, and continue pursuing a relationship with someone that you can love without the guilt.

 

[someoneuk]

Hi guys, not been on here much for a while.. After feeling guilty about the situation with my mate I've been trying to keep my distance a bit, not played with him for a couple of months now, but before that we did get to the stage where we were kissing and he even tried sucking my cock.

Also I finally fucked a girl, had a 3some with her and her fella - was great fun!

 

[DQSundae]

My word, this thread has more flashbacks and flashforwards than Season One of Damages. I kept expecting Patty Hewes (Glenn Close) to jump in and file a class action suit against gay married men.