Hello there, there is something Ive noticed lately I think its unarguable that we sadly live in a society where homosexuality is not being tolerated and homosexuals cannot openly speak about their orientation without being judged for it. We still have a long way to go before we reach absolute tolerance. Yes, its no surprise many homosexuals wish to be accepted and tolerated and not having to hide away who they are . HOWEVER I did notice a type of attitude, which seems to lead to the opposite of acceptance and tolerance. I noticed that SOME (please underline that I said SOME and not ALL) homosexuals seem to have this obsession with things that are specifically gay. Starting with gay bars gay magazines, gay TV channels, gay fashion . Now I dont mind their existence, let them be, but I have some doubts Sure, already the fact such things are allowed to exist is a sign that theres more tolerance, however I get the feeling that by doing such things rather creates borders rather than demolishing them. A lot of people protest against the fact homosexuals are not allowed to marry, but even should they be allowed to marry and even should they have the same laws as heterosexual couples, the mere fact their relationship would be called a partnership rather than marriage would already cause people to protest. And I agree, if these relationships are equal then they deserve to be called the same way However if gay people desire so much to be equal, why do such gay bars etc keep popping up like mushrooms after rain? Should there be straight bars soon too? Perhaps Im being naïve, but if I was homosexual (Im bi) I dont think I would go around looking for things with the word GAY on them. I wouldnt look for a product, channel or facility established for people of my sexuality! I would do, take, use, watch whatever I feel like! Just like I do now! Be it a magazine for straight or gay guys, I still dont find it immediately appealing (in both cases its even Unappealing to me). Before writing this thread of course I contacted my homosexual friends whom also agreed with me that its paradoxal and slightly hypocritical to desire equality while at the same time pushing oneself away from it. Perhaps I just cant understand how one can consider sexuality a life style. I still I am a human being with a complex psyche and personality constructed from various aspects like feelings, taste, knowledge, experience, hobbies etc and even if I were to pick one single of those things to determine how I talk, look, what I watch, read, play, do . It certainly wouldnt be my sexuality. Id like to once again point out that I dont mind people acting like this, its their choice, but I just cant imagine myself acting like this and find it awkward. My gay friends also agreed with me on this topic and so I decided to write a thread about it and hoped for some more comments on this subject. Do you agree with me that its odd and perhaps counterproductive or am I a big homophobe for questioning this matter (guess that makes my GAY FRIENDS even bigger homophobes .). Anyways thank you for your attention!