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guys i need help lol im 19 and every time i see a hot guy i get hard but for some reason i cant get hard for girls i fucked hot girls before but i went without sex for a while i was watching gay and straight porn and when i got a girl i couldnt get hard but if i see a hot guy i get an instant boner. i love girls every thing about them and i dont want to be with a guy in any way please dont say just face it your gay i dont want to be not saying there is any thing wrong with it but its not for me help please!!
Our heteronormative society really does a number on us. Cocks and muscles get you hard, but you "don't want to be with a guy in any way?"? Really? I think you do want to be with those cocks and muscles, and why fight it? My own admission: I never resisted being turned on by cocks (or muscles, for that matter), but even after I started having sex with other guys, I still had this instant reaction to seeing two guys making out in a gay bar of feeling discomfort, awkwardness, etc.--even though I made out with guys myself. The reason? When you grow up not seeing men make out with each other, even when you see it as a gay man, it still can be a little bit of a shock. Fortunately, I got over that heteronormative cultural reaction within a few years, at most. I hope you can get past what you need to get past.
by the way love your pics hilaire but if i had a big cock like 9 in lol and muscles i really dont think id be so curious to see or touch some one elses i never really though about a tight man hole. lol
Thanks :wink: Oh and don't knock man hole till you've tried it.
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dude, you might have potential as a straight man :wink:
for true.. talk to guys here.
the LPSG dudeship covers from born out and loud to just starting out realizing their sexuality ain't binary.
talk to 'em about how ya feel. what ya think about when watching the manly men of ya chosen porn.
maybe even get into camming with another dude.. is a nice safe way to start testing ya boundaries. can't imagine you would be short of friendly dudes offering an ear, a shoulder, a cock :tongue1:
Getting instant boners over male bodies and not female ones doesn't necessarily mean you're gay or even bisexual.
LOL! Hil has a fairly big one, but NINE? Ummm.....if you think so, but I think you need to refamiliarize yourself with a ruler...and some cocks other than yours. :wink:...lol by the way love your pics hilaire but if i had a big cock like 9 in lol and muscles i really dont think id be so curious to see or touch some one elses i never really though about a tight man hole. lol
May I inquire as to what the alternative meaning(s) of arousal towards men would signify? Perhaps I am ignorant, but sexual arousal induced exclusively by the male sex would certainly highlight a preference in my mind.
Consider the words of a mother who just caught her son looking at Playgirl and not Playboy: "Oh my god... he is gay!". However, as much as we want to think in that direction, it doesn't always work that way. And, again, it shows how uneducated our society in regards to human sexuality.
Sexual attraction is much more than genitals and bodies. It's about who we fall in live with and who we prefer to have sex with.
(Yeah, human sexuality is more complicated than you could ever imagine, and neat little categories just don't work well for many).
LOL! Hil has a fairly big one, but NINE? Ummm.....if you think so, but I think you need to refamiliarize yourself with a ruler...and some cocks other than yours. :wink:
Look, none of us can telll you your sexuality. Sexuality is very personal and individual. My advice is what has been said before by people far cooler and wiser than me: Bb, ML, Ms. Moxie, Hilaire, and others...(yes Hilaire, I tease but he's a cool guy and can be uber helpful; a fact i don't give him enough public credit for)
If you like women, great. If you like men, awesome. If you like both, woohoo! If you have some weird set of likes and dislikes that make no sense to anyone but you? Fantastic! But DO NOT try to pigeonhole yourself into a societal box that may not be you. Keep an your mind open, and as you start playing (if you do) with other guys, keep the linesof communication open. If you don't like kissing dudes, OK. I would say though that if you get the urge to try it to go for it. Same with anal with a dude. If it truns out it's not your thing, so be it.
I was with a dude for a spell who liked fucking me, wanted to be fucked by me, but hated kissing and cuddling. He tried both and just said it felt weird to him, and asked that I not be offended. I tol him that seeing as how we were occasional FB's it was no big deal. I also said that we could never be more than that as I LOVE those things. We continued to see each other off and on for a bit, tell I settled into the FB relationship i have now.
Enjoy whatever comes dude. You'll figure it all out in time.:smile:
May I inquire as to what the alternative meaning(s) of arousal towards men would signify? Perhaps I am ignorant, but sexual arousal induced exclusively by the male sex would certainly highlight a preference in my mind.
"Jealousy issues" might appear as a plausible enough cause, but how would that bias erections to only occur towards men, and how does that account for no sexual arousal towards women when the masculine threat is absent?
I like a lot of the emotion behind your words, but it is far from parsimonious.