Guys are gross, just find a hawt girl who likes gay dudes and watching old movies with you and you're home free.
and i will eventually find my way. cant roam for ever
Why not?
lol cause dude this is not want i want. my mind and heart says one thing and my cocks says another but im going to put him on a leash lol and train him the way i want him lol:biggrin1:Why not?
i wouldnt say im bi.. only beacuse for example when people are finished with highschool and on there way to college and they are asked what do they want to do some of them know some of them dont so for the teens that dont they get labeled as slow or dumb or unorganized when thats not the case there just indecisive at the momet. just beacuse i have thoughts or what ever doesnt make me bi and im not hiding it or trying to cover it up cause if that was the case then i wouldnt be here asking for u guys opinions. but thanks for telling me your opinion and i know that the example has nothing to do with it lol just felt it was good to useYou're bi simply, with, for the moment, a better attraction for sex toward guys, happen to me all the time, sometimes i want gay sex for a long time, and one day, i just have no interest in it and i want straight, i'm bi
Moreover, i know that i can have sex, but never have\had sentiments for a guy ( and no i do not try to hide them, it is just that i can't love a guy, for me sexuallity, desire, and love can be separate issues)
I think your only problem is you see it as a problem.
Ok, I'm going back to your original post on this. You said you were a happily functioning heterosexual prior to a period of no sex, during which you were exploring gay porn. You may have "programmed" your arousal towards the gay side. If you have no desire to be with a guy emotionally, then you likely are not gay. Try focusing on straight porn only for awhile, and see if you can get aroused, jack off, and orgasm to straight porn. See what happens. While you may or may not be gay and suppressing it has yet to be seen, but if at 19 this is the first time you have been aroused by guys, then I doubt you are inherently gay. Take some pressure off yourself, for one thing, and just explore on your own before you involve other people. If you can't get hard thinking about girls, and you do for guys, your sexual desires are gay, even if you feel your emotional desires are straight. This kind of conflict may requir deeper help, possibly some counseling, to resolve. Good luck on this!
Ok, I'm going back to your original post on this. You said you were a happily functioning heterosexual prior to a period of no sex, during which you were exploring gay porn. You may have "programmed" your arousal towards the gay side. If you have no desire to be with a guy emotionally, then you likely are not gay. Try focusing on straight porn only for awhile, and see if you can get aroused, jack off, and orgasm to straight porn. See what happens. While you may or may not be gay and suppressing it has yet to be seen, but if at 19 this is the first time you have been aroused by guys, then I doubt you are inherently gay. Take some pressure off yourself, for one thing, and just explore on your own before you involve other people. If you can't get hard thinking about girls, and you do for guys, your sexual desires are gay, even if you feel your emotional desires are straight. This kind of conflict may requir deeper help, possibly some counseling, to resolve. Good luck on this!
This is the best post and advice I've seen so far. When we rely on porn for fulfilling sexual urges (which for teenage men are VERY strong) the brain does learn to react to the pattern of arousal that you feed it through the porn, and this is what is causing your lack of arousal for women.Ok, I'm going back to your original post on this. You said you were a happily functioning heterosexual prior to a period of no sex, during which you were exploring gay porn. You may have "programmed" your arousal towards the gay side. If you have no desire to be with a guy emotionally, then you likely are not gay. Try focusing on straight porn only for awhile, and see if you can get aroused, jack off, and orgasm to straight porn. See what happens. While you may or may not be gay and suppressing it has yet to be seen, but if at 19 this is the first time you have been aroused by guys, then I doubt you are inherently gay. Take some pressure off yourself, for one thing, and just explore on your own before you involve other people. If you can't get hard thinking about girls, and you do for guys, your sexual desires are gay, even if you feel your emotional desires are straight. This kind of conflict may requir deeper help, possibly some counseling, to resolve. Good luck on this!
Please know this:
1) Getting instant boners over male bodies and not female ones doesn't necessarily mean you're gay or even bisexual.
2) Not getting instant boners over male bodies but rather female ones doesn't necessarily mean you're straight, either! (probably thinking I am crazy now, but I know for sure that I am not)
The average person is very uneducated with regards to human sexuality and therefore not to be paid any attention to.
Only you can know who you are sexually (besides, each person is as unique in his sexuality as his own fingerprints).
You may find out that you truly are gay. If so, great! But you might find out that those instant boners were something more than a real desire for sex with men (happens more often that you think in young men). It could be jealously issues (pseudo-homosexuality), etc, and sex with men is thus not appealing to you.
Last thing: Society is still blind to the reality that some people's sexuality changes over time ("malleable" sexuality).
Be true to yourself, and don't let anyone define you. :smile:
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lol cause dude this is not want i want. my mind and heart says one thing and my cocks says another but im going to put him on a leash lol and train him the way i want him lol:biggrin1:
All that said, only the OP can decide for himself who he is sexually.
Consider the words of a mother who just caught her son looking at Playgirl and not Playboy: "Oh my god... he is gay!". However, as much as we want to think in that direction, it doesn't always work that way. And, again, it shows how uneducated our society in regards to human sexuality. Sexual attraction is much more than genitals and bodies. It's about who we fall in live with and who we prefer to have sex with.
(Yeah, human sexuality is more complicated than you could ever imagine, and neat little categories just don't work well for many).
Yeah cuz that always works so well. Ring us back when your 40 and let us know how well that went (or usually we will see you here at 30 as one of the married dude's looking for a little extra curricular activity with some guy...but whatever)lol cause dude this is not want i want. my mind and heart says one thing and my cocks says another but im going to put him on a leash lol and train him the way i want him lol:biggrin1:
Emapasis mine. Ok that is a load of crap. He may not be inherently gay, but he might be inherently bi. He was aroused watching gay porn. There had to be some level of homosexuality there for that arousal to take place. I have known MANY men who simply repressed there gay/bi urges until the dam burst. They are the ones who then say, yeah I think I always kinda knew. He should keep his options open, experiment as he needs to, nd then figure out who the hell he is.Ok, I'm going back to your original post on this. You said you were a happily functioning heterosexual prior to a period of no sex, during which you were exploring gay porn. You may have "programmed" your arousal towards the gay side. If you have no desire to be with a guy emotionally, then you likely are not gay. Try focusing on straight porn only for awhile, and see if you can get aroused, jack off, and orgasm to straight porn. See what happens. While you may or may not be gay and suppressing it has yet to be seen, but if at 19 this is the first time you have been aroused by guys, then I doubt you are inherently gay. Take some pressure off yourself, for one thing, and just explore on your own before you involve other people. If you can't get hard thinking about girls, and you do for guys, your sexual desires are gay, even if you feel your emotional desires are straight. This kind of conflict may requir deeper help, possibly some counseling, to resolve. Good luck on this!
I'm sorry but I don't care how much lesbian porn I watch, it still does nothing for me. Straight porn is hot at times, but I tend to just blur the girl out or look at the anal straight porn. I have been exposed to both lesbian and straight MANY times and still nothing. It didn't screw up my hormones and make me say "OH! I am straight now!"This is the best post and advice I've seen so far. When we rely on porn for fulfilling sexual urges (which for teenage men are VERY strong) the brain does learn to react to the pattern of arousal that you feed it through the porn, and this is what is causing your lack of arousal for women.
This is one of the reasons I'm trying to watch less of it, and finding that difficult to do. After relying on porn for a while myself, I realised that not bothering to chase women had left something lacking in my life. Even though I don't think there's anything immoral about porn or anything like that, it does definitely screw up our hormones and can reprogram you sexually, and that is the best reason to not allow watching it to become a pattern.
Having said all that... you were curious about, and aroused by the gay porn, for a reason. You are almost certainly not 100% straight, as you claim you are, but that's okay... the modern interpretation of sexuality is that it is a spectrum, and you're probably somewhere in the middle of that spectrum.
Truer words have never been spoken.You can try to train him. That just expands the distance between your head and your heart.
That is exactly what everyone in here is advising you not to do. Because in the end, after years of trying, you find out you wasted a lot of time, opportunity, and pleasure. Sometimes, your whole youth. It's too precious. Find out who you are, whoever that may be, and savor it.
Well until now. Hilaire, between you and mandoman i think you two have this locked down.The problem I have with this is that sexuality isn't really something we get to consciously decide. I didn't wake up one morning and say "hey, you know what? I'm going to be Gay now".
Sexuality is exactly as you say, far more complicated and far more subtle than the vast majority of people seem to be aware of. And I'm with you in saying that just because the OP gets erections over men this does not indicate that he must be Gay or bisexual.
However I also don't think the best advice to give him is "you decide for yourself what sexuality you want to be and ignore other indications to the contrary".
If you are getting erections and being aroused over men (and in this case not being aroused by women), then its definitely something you have to explore to its fullest extent, psychologically, emotionally and if necessary physically.
If upon exploration you find that your arousal isn't about actually being attracted to men and has at its root some other cause then all well and dandy. But approaching the issue with very strongly preconceived ideas about the causes ignores the fact that something is contradicting those preconceptions.
The point being that just as its wrong of others to jump to conclusions about someone else's sexuality based on these fairly vague indicators it would be foolish of the OP to simply discount a whole range of possibilities which are at least suggested by those indicators simply because he thinks being Gay (or bisexual or whatever it is he is) isn't for him.
I did it the other way and it didn't work. I can't ever remember having had a libidinous thought about any woman. But I've had attractions for men ever since my libido switched on. (When was that? I can't even say. It was certainly before puberty.) I tried deperately to do the "normal" thing: got married, had sex, had children. Eventually I left that life and have lived openly as a gay man. Meanwhile nothing has ever changed in the libido department. The Bachmann clinic might claim otherwise, but I don't believe we can either choose or change our "spots."
Maybe I'm projecting a little bit because of problems I've experienced in the past, in getting sufficiently aroused for sex, which I put down to over-exposure to straight porn. I've never gotten turned on by men though, so maybe I am taking that theory too far and it doesn't really apply here. I was trying to put forward a theory as to why he used to get turned on by women, but doesn't anymore, because I can't understand that.I'm sorry but I don't care how much lesbian porn I watch, it still does nothing for me. Straight porn is hot at times, but I tend to just blur the girl out or look at the anal straight porn. I have been exposed to both lesbian and straight MANY times and still nothing. It didn't screw up my hormones and make me say "OH! I am straight now!"
The base desire has to be there, latent or not. I think our young friend has a latent desire he needs to figure out.
The bolded portion of your quote i do agree with.