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guys i need help lol im 19 and every time i see a hot guy i get hard but for some reason i cant get hard for girls i fucked hot girls before but i went without sex for a while i was watching gay and straight porn and when i got a girl i couldnt get hard but if i see a hot guy i get an instant boner. i love girls every thing about them and i dont want to be with a guy in any way please dont say just face it your gay i dont want to be not saying there is any thing wrong with it but its not for me help please!!
 

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I'm just going to say what you don't want me to say, you need to stop pretending to yourself and lying to yourself and deal with your real feelings and attractions.
 

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*is not saying it*

there is this thread... about a guy whose partner cheated on him, and now he's having troubles getting an erection with the guy...

group consensus was "dude, listen to your penis"

umm... is really good advice.

at least enough to focus on ya feelings enough to understand what is going on. ya is young, ya could just be curious, or drawn to the masculinity.. ya owe it to yaself to look at ya attractions with open eyes.

still didn't say it
 
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It doesn't matter what you want to label yourself as, but it does sound like there is some curiosity/attraction about/to guys. I would suggest going onto Craigslist or manhunt and finding a hot guy around your age and meet up for some fooling around, mutual jerking and sucking if you feel like it. Either you will discover that you quite like it, or it will repulse these gay thoughts and unwanted erections from your mind.
 

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Being gay or bi isn't something that's "for me" or "not for me". It's more like "is me" or "is not me". You can't turn hormones off and on based on preconceived notions of what's "for" you.

Don't get all hung up on labels, man. There are plenty of guys, masculine in every way imaginable, who love women, their looks, their smell, being around them, but a big ol' throbbing member or tight man hole is what they crave and totally turns them on.
 

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It doesn't matter what you want to label yourself as, but it does sound like there is some curiosity/attraction about/to guys. I would suggest going onto Craigslist or manhunt and finding a hot guy around your age and meet up for some fooling around, mutual jerking and sucking if you feel like it. Either you will discover that you quite like it, or it will repulse these gay thoughts and unwanted erections from your mind.

NO.. no.. no.. no.

really, don't do that.

*thwaps matelaliique with a rolled up newspaper*
 

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What is to help? You've got'cher sexual preferences mixed ups.

If your ding-a-ling-a-ling goes stiff for guys and not girls, and yer brain thinks that is backwards, there are three ways to look at it... Mr. One-eye needs to go in for glasses, Dr. Brain is out of the office, or all systems are a go and you just haven't realized the destination yet. *radio chatter* "This is ground control, clear for launch procedure"
 

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I'm 37 and just now finally decided to "get over" not wanting to be gay. Now that I have I feel I've cheated myself. All the hot sex with hot young guys I could've had; shame on me for not letting me be me. Whatever your resisting, find a way to become OK with it. at least figure out what you need to figure out on the DL and don't deprive yourself. You may meet someone who will take you by the hand and help you on your path to discovery; or you may (probably) have to figure it out all on your own. Just don't waste 20 years not doing what is right for you, the real you!!!

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Take your time to understand yourself. There's nothing wrong with you. When you meet people who you can share your sexual/emotional feelings with, you'll figure things out just fine. Most important as everyone always says: BE YOURSELF!
 

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at 19, you've got a long lifetime ahead. Gay porn is hot. Hot guys are hot. Not all guys who are turned on by that are "gay."

Also, many homosexuals/bisexuals go through a homophobic stage of self-identity. Unfortunately, the heteronormative standards are still deep-rooted in society, making it hard to be something different.

Having said all that, if you're 19 and get turned on looking at men and not women, you're probably homosexual so you might take a good look at your feelings and realize you're perfect exactly how you are!
 
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thanks every one lol but i think im attracted to the masculinity like one of u said and i think honestly huge cocks and muscles turn me on only cause i dont have them im average but a vgl teen and wouldnt want females to miss out on this lol by the way love your pics hilaire but if i had a big cock like 9 in lol and muscles i really dont think id be so curious to see or touch some one elses i never really though about a tight man hole. lol
 

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at 19, you've got a long lifetime ahead. Gay porn is hot. Hot guys are hot. Not all guys who are turned on by that are "gay."

Also, many homosexuals/bisexuals go through a homophobic stage of self-identity. Unfortunately, the heteronormative standards are still deep-rooted in society, making it hard to be something different.

Having said all that, if you're 19 and get turned on looking at men and not women, you're probably homosexual so you might take a good look at your feelings and realize you're perfect exactly how you are!



no i get turned on by girls like if i see a hot girl i want to get to know her have sex with her etc. but when it comes to the sex part i cant get hard.
 

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thanks every one lol but i think im attracted to the masculinity like one of u said and i think honestly huge cocks and muscles turn me on only cause i dont have them im average but a vgl teen and wouldnt want females to miss out on this lol by the way love your pics hilaire but if i had a big cock like 9 in lol and muscles i really dont think id be so curious to see or touch some one elses i never really though about a tight man hole. lol

aspirational attractions are completely normal. is all the same bit of growing up angst.. you are looking for an example to typify the man you want to be, yeth? seeing "him" is attractive. ya less than stellar performance with the ladies could be an issue of insecurities with about your body/performance.

is not to say you don't have a genuine attraction to men. ya might. after some thought you could be open to exploring another aspect of ya sexuality.
would be a healthy thing, so ya don't deny yaself anything and so ya don't continue to have doubts.

at ya age, don't see any reason to label who you are. or limit who you are. just be careful with yaself and others. *pets*

my sexuality is spin art.. and so not easy to explain to anyone else.. but it all makes sense to me. i'm happy. non-typical but happy as can be.
 

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ok, now you're trying to side-step. Most men would say if you're turned on at 19, you're hard. Unless you have erectile dysfunction, which sounds like it is not the case since you admit you get hard looking at hot men.
 

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i wouldnt say im side steping i was just saying how i felt while trying not to contradict my self and put it in the best way possible to find a solution to this problem im having.
 
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