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Stop worrying about how you are feeling, you like what you like, there's no point in trying to fight it. If you like the way women look, hang around with them and if it leads to sex with them and you enjoy it, great.

If men are attractive to you, hang out with them also and see what happens.

I believe that most humans are actually bisexual but they just let the strong forces of society push them one way or the other.

Women are very esthetically appealing to me and being with them holding them, kissing them and when I get a chance to, having sex with them is very attractive to me.

The thought of kissing a man is pretty pukey to me, I'd never do it, yuk. But the thought of sucking on ones dick or having him put his dick up my ass is very erotic to me, my dick just got hard as I wrote this.

That's the way I am, everyone's a little different, just be yourself and don't sweat what other people think.
 
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guys i need help lol im 19 and every time i see a hot guy i get hard but for some reason i cant get hard for girls i fucked hot girls before but i went without sex for a while i was watching gay and straight porn and when i got a girl i couldnt get hard but if i see a hot guy i get an instant boner. i love girls every thing about them and i dont want to be with a guy in any way please dont say just face it your gay i dont want to be not saying there is any thing wrong with it but its not for me help please!!

Our heteronormative society really does a number on us. Cocks and muscles get you hard, but you "don't want to be with a guy in any way?"? Really? I think you do want to be with those cocks and muscles, and why fight it? My own admission: I never resisted being turned on by cocks (or muscles, for that matter), but even after I started having sex with other guys, I still had this instant reaction to seeing two guys making out in a gay bar of feeling discomfort, awkwardness, etc.--even though I made out with guys myself. The reason? When you grow up not seeing men make out with each other, even when you see it as a gay man, it still can be a little bit of a shock. Fortunately, I got over that heteronormative cultural reaction within a few years, at most. I hope you can get past what you need to get past.
 

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lol calboy101 kinda made me a little 2. and i will eventually find my way. cant roam for ever
 

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Our heteronormative society really does a number on us. Cocks and muscles get you hard, but you "don't want to be with a guy in any way?"? Really? I think you do want to be with those cocks and muscles, and why fight it? My own admission: I never resisted being turned on by cocks (or muscles, for that matter), but even after I started having sex with other guys, I still had this instant reaction to seeing two guys making out in a gay bar of feeling discomfort, awkwardness, etc.--even though I made out with guys myself. The reason? When you grow up not seeing men make out with each other, even when you see it as a gay man, it still can be a little bit of a shock. Fortunately, I got over that heteronormative cultural reaction within a few years, at most. I hope you can get past what you need to get past.


actually i really dont want to be with a guy honestly maybe fool around and im just realizing that now from the ppl on here thats been giving me advice but as far as relationship yuk no! not trying to offend any one.
 

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by the way love your pics hilaire but if i had a big cock like 9 in lol and muscles i really dont think id be so curious to see or touch some one elses i never really though about a tight man hole. lol


Thanks :wink: Oh and don't knock man hole till you've tried it.
 
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Guys are gross, just find a hawt girl who likes gay dudes and watching old movies with you and you're home free.
 

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dude, you might have potential as a straight man :wink:

for true.. talk to guys here.

the LPSG dudeship covers from born out and loud to just starting out realizing their sexuality ain't binary.

talk to 'em about how ya feel. what ya think about when watching the manly men of ya chosen porn.
maybe even get into camming with another dude.. is a nice safe way to start testing ya boundaries. can't imagine you would be short of friendly dudes offering an ear, a shoulder, a cock :tongue1:
 
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:rofl:

dude, you might have potential as a straight man :wink:

for true.. talk to guys here.

the LPSG dudeship covers from born out and loud to just starting out realizing their sexuality ain't binary.

talk to 'em about how ya feel. what ya think about when watching the manly men of ya chosen porn.
maybe even get into camming with another dude.. is a nice safe way to start testing ya boundaries. can't imagine you would be short of friendly dudes offering an ear, a shoulder, a cock :tongue1:


lol ok thanks
 

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Please know this:

1) Getting instant boners over male bodies and not female ones doesn't necessarily mean you're gay or even bisexual.

2) Not getting instant boners over male bodies but rather female ones doesn't necessarily mean you're straight, either! (probably thinking I am crazy now, but I know for sure that I am not)

The average person is very uneducated with regards to human sexuality and therefore not to be paid any attention to.

Only you can know who you are sexually (besides, each person is as unique in his sexuality as his own fingerprints).

You may find out that you truly are gay. If so, great! But you might find out that those instant boners were something more than a real desire for sex with men (happens more often that you think in young men). It could be jealously issues (pseudo-homosexuality), etc, and sex with men is thus not appealing to you.

Last thing: Society is still blind to the reality that some people's sexuality changes over time ("malleable" sexuality).

Be true to yourself, and don't let anyone define you. :smile:

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Dude, you sound like me when I was 15. I'm not in to dudes, I just want to look like hot guys. I'm not interested in dating dudes, I'd just have sex with them. If I force myself to like women I'll be straight.

I hope you do like pablovian said on the first page and don't snake yourself out of years of happiness. I won't pretend that I know you better than you do, but I hope that some day soon you stop fighting yourself and love you for who you are.
 

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Getting instant boners over male bodies and not female ones doesn't necessarily mean you're gay or even bisexual.

May I inquire as to what the alternative meaning(s) of arousal towards men would signify? Perhaps I am ignorant, but sexual arousal induced exclusively by the male sex would certainly highlight a preference in my mind.

"Jealousy issues" might appear as a plausible enough cause, but how would that bias erections to only occur towards men, and how does that account for no sexual arousal towards women when the masculine threat is absent?

I like a lot of the emotion behind your words, but it is far from parsimonious.
 
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...lol by the way love your pics hilaire but if i had a big cock like 9 in lol and muscles i really dont think id be so curious to see or touch some one elses i never really though about a tight man hole. lol
LOL! Hil has a fairly big one, but NINE? Ummm.....if you think so, but I think you need to refamiliarize yourself with a ruler...and some cocks other than yours. :wink:

Look, none of us can telll you your sexuality. Sexuality is very personal and individual. My advice is what has been said before by people far cooler and wiser than me: Bb, ML, Ms. Moxie, Hilaire, and others...(yes Hilaire, I tease but he's a cool guy and can be uber helpful; a fact i don't give him enough public credit for)

If you like women, great. If you like men, awesome. If you like both, woohoo! If you have some weird set of likes and dislikes that make no sense to anyone but you? Fantastic! But DO NOT try to pigeonhole yourself into a societal box that may not be you. Keep an your mind open, and as you start playing (if you do) with other guys, keep the linesof communication open. If you don't like kissing dudes, OK. I would say though that if you get the urge to try it to go for it. Same with anal with a dude. If it truns out it's not your thing, so be it.

I was with a dude for a spell who liked fucking me, wanted to be fucked by me, but hated kissing and cuddling. He tried both and just said it felt weird to him, and asked that I not be offended. I tol him that seeing as how we were occasional FB's it was no big deal. I also said that we could never be more than that as I LOVE those things. We continued to see each other off and on for a bit, tell I settled into the FB relationship i have now.

Enjoy whatever comes dude. You'll figure it all out in time.:smile:
 

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May I inquire as to what the alternative meaning(s) of arousal towards men would signify? Perhaps I am ignorant, but sexual arousal induced exclusively by the male sex would certainly highlight a preference in my mind.

Not necessarily. I do not enjoy sex with men, but have had instant boners over certain ones I was jealous of (more so when I was in my late teens and early twenties). It doesn't happen to me any more. The only time I get hard over a man is if he brags about having a big dick (that brings instant wood out in me because I want to compete and win).

What gives me instant boners now is watching lesbian sex.:wink:

All that said, only the OP can decide for himself who he is sexually.

Consider the words of a mother who just caught her son looking at Playgirl and not Playboy: "Oh my god... he is gay!". However, as much as we want to think in that direction, it doesn't always work that way. And, again, it shows how uneducated our society in regards to human sexuality. Sexual attraction is much more than genitals and bodies. It's about who we fall in live with and who we prefer to have sex with.


(Yeah, human sexuality is more complicated than you could ever imagine, and neat little categories just don't work well for many).
 
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Forget about gay and straight all together is my advice.
You don't need a hard dick to make a woman happy. Educate your mouth and tongue and you'll be the most popular guy in town with the ladies, get into eating pussy, it's fun, it's sexy, if it doesn't go any further, so what, you can bring your girl off and jack off later at home.
If experimenting with hot guys happens, so what? You don't need a relationship at this point, you need to get off and have a lot of fun while doing it.
Relax, the sex is there for you to enjoy hard or not. Learn to climax without ejaculation, that makes it even more fun.
Right now have sex as often as possible, with whomever you are attracted to, in the way that is appropriate to you. When you learn to love your sexual self and enjoy your sexual self, you'll find you are truly sexually satisfying others and you'll be a very popular guy.
Enjoy it, you're only nineteen once, and only by having lots of sex will these things sort themselves out but by having a lot of good healthy sex (as opposed to self destructive sex) will mean getting to know not only yourself, but your sexual partners. Life can be a grand experience instead of a torturious one.
Come on, enjoy the hard dick the way that is comfortable for you and forget about relationships all together. Don't worry, when you meet the person you'll want to have a relationship with, you'll know it.
 

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Consider the words of a mother who just caught her son looking at Playgirl and not Playboy: "Oh my god... he is gay!". However, as much as we want to think in that direction, it doesn't always work that way. And, again, it shows how uneducated our society in regards to human sexuality.

A knee-jerk reaction is not really the most sound basis to smear an entire society with, but I will bite. Snapping to such a conclusion is not ignorant, in fact, it is adaptive. In a situation such as the one you described, the mother would be acting upon a heuristic, and a fairly accurate one at that.

Sexual attraction is much more than genitals and bodies. It's about who we fall in live with and who we prefer to have sex with.

I think gender still plays a pretty relevant role here. Look at it this way: fuse identical mannerisms and personalities into two human bodies of equally perceived beauty (for an anonymous person, of course). The only difference between these two ideal and prospective life-long partners is gender. Do you really think the anonymous person would be totally ambivalent towards that variable? I think not.


(Yeah, human sexuality is more complicated than you could ever imagine, and neat little categories just don't work well for many).

I do not think a human's sexuality needs to fit snugly into one binary bin or another, but I do believe there are dominant traits and preferences.
(I am not sure if you intended this as a jab or not)
 
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LOL! Hil has a fairly big one, but NINE? Ummm.....if you think so, but I think you need to refamiliarize yourself with a ruler...and some cocks other than yours. :wink:

Look, none of us can telll you your sexuality. Sexuality is very personal and individual. My advice is what has been said before by people far cooler and wiser than me: Bb, ML, Ms. Moxie, Hilaire, and others...(yes Hilaire, I tease but he's a cool guy and can be uber helpful; a fact i don't give him enough public credit for)

If you like women, great. If you like men, awesome. If you like both, woohoo! If you have some weird set of likes and dislikes that make no sense to anyone but you? Fantastic! But DO NOT try to pigeonhole yourself into a societal box that may not be you. Keep an your mind open, and as you start playing (if you do) with other guys, keep the linesof communication open. If you don't like kissing dudes, OK. I would say though that if you get the urge to try it to go for it. Same with anal with a dude. If it truns out it's not your thing, so be it.

I was with a dude for a spell who liked fucking me, wanted to be fucked by me, but hated kissing and cuddling. He tried both and just said it felt weird to him, and asked that I not be offended. I tol him that seeing as how we were occasional FB's it was no big deal. I also said that we could never be more than that as I LOVE those things. We continued to see each other off and on for a bit, tell I settled into the FB relationship i have now.

Enjoy whatever comes dude. You'll figure it all out in time.:smile:





and 9 is pretty big i know what 9 in looks like and ok thats 4 the advice
 

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May I inquire as to what the alternative meaning(s) of arousal towards men would signify? Perhaps I am ignorant, but sexual arousal induced exclusively by the male sex would certainly highlight a preference in my mind.

"Jealousy issues" might appear as a plausible enough cause, but how would that bias erections to only occur towards men, and how does that account for no sexual arousal towards women when the masculine threat is absent?

I like a lot of the emotion behind your words, but it is far from parsimonious.

thanks for all the advice and i know the masculine threat is absent but i guess its a mental thing.