Gay Wedding Ring Dilemma

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  1. earllogjam

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    If you are gay and partnered do you wear a wedding ring? At what point in the relationship did you decide to wear one?

    If so what finger and hand do you wear it on and what kind of ring do you wear? Does your partner wear the same style ring? Was there some type of commitment ceremony?

    There is no set custom here and I realize it is a personal choice and it varies among couples but I'm curious what your take on the importance of this is, as a band is a very powerful symbol of commitment and fidelity and seems like an important aspect of being married.

    If you don't wear one why have you chosen not to? I wonder if most straight married men these days wear a wedding ring as many I know do not.
     
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    My partner and I have been together for going on 7 years, and I want rings, he in the past did not, claiming that he'd lose it at work since he washes his hands constantly (he works in the medical field). I've always called BS on that but that's for another post.

    At any rate, we are talking about rings again and I think we will get them this year, and we'll wear them on the traditional finger. To me it is physical demonstration of your bond to others and is just a simple symbol.

    I prefer a simple silver band of some sort.
     
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    You may want to get him a chain to wear it around his neck. A friend who is an EMT does this.

     
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    My squeeze and I have two sets of different plain wedding bands.

    One set is 24 carat gold for wearing when we're out and about dressed in formal attire. Why 24 instead of 18 carat? Of course 24 carat gold is softer, easily bends, and wears down after a while, but if either one of us needs quick cash we can sell them for 10&#37; less per ounce than whatever the going rate for gold bullion is at the time. An 18 carat gold band will last practically forever, but is worth a lot less than what you pay for it.

    The second set of bands are platinum amalgam. These are our "every day wear" symbols of "I love you. You love me. Let's go out and fuck the town senseless."

    I never thought about wearing a wedding band until my squeeze got down on one knee and presented me with an inexpensive wedding band that, for him, was definitely not inexpensive. Imagine the blush on my cheeks when he asked me to "marry" him. Same sex marriage is legal in BsAS Capital Federal as well as Spain and most of Europe and Canada. Hey, when you're 51 and feeling your bones ache it's a great experience to have someone propose marriage.

    After our civil ceremony in the BsAs marriage office, we went shopping for the two sets of rings. Later than night his friends surprised us with a major celebration.

    I still wear the 60 Peso special he presented me on a 24 carat chain around my neck.

    Rings or no rings, we're both the two biggest whores we know. LOL! It's always nice for couples to have common hobbies.
     
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    My hubby and I plan to wear rings--we have already picked them out. They are titanium and will match. We are coming up on our one year anniversary and I plan to surprise him at that time. We will wear them on our ring fingers.

    We can't be married where we live, but maybe one day.

    We currently have steel bracelets that we wear. They are not identical, but are very similar.

    Bubba wore a ring that symbolized his relationship with his last partner--they were together for 9 years.

    I wore a wedding ring for the 10 years Mrs. Lex and I identified as a hetero couple.
     
  6. earllogjam

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    You think most jewelers would be open and accommodating to two men shopping for rings together?

    Sweet story thanks mlb. Never thought of a gold wedding ring being an investment but come to think of it there are plenty in Reno pawn shops.

    That's sweet Lex. Did you guys have a commitment ceremony of any sort?
     
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    We are not wearing the rings yet (I am going to surprise him in February. We won't have a ceremony, per sea, at this point.
     
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    I would think in this day and age they wouldn't care who was buying there wares as long as they had the money to pay for it. :cool:
     
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    We never even thought twice about this. We walked around and visited many stores and got our fingers sized and what not. In the end, if a salesmen is uncomfortable with our shopping, then we are uncomfortable with spending our money there.

    Truth be told, I got very bored of the rings that I saw in most stores. The one we found is most similar to the first wedding ring I ever liked but never saw again.
     
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    There is no issue with it anywhere I know. Hell, even Tiffany has his/his rings sets.

    Remember that jewelers have always had to be discreet. Not every piece a man buys is going to his wife or daughter. Not every person who looks like they have money is looking to buy so much as sell.
     
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