Gays & Lezs: Before coming out, how bad was your paranoia?

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  1. jorpollew

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    Who remembers being so scared and paranoid about anyone finding out about their sexual orientation? Were there drastic or silly things that you did back then that you think about now and cringe or laught about?

    I think that some of stories will be very funny, some sad and tragic-- but all very poignant. Let's share.
     
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    I think Geographical location plays a very large part in how/what is felt.

    People in rural areas are more likely to be closeted than people un Urban areas, obviously due to the population.
     
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    I never gave it any thought at all.
    My parents were pretty cool as far as most things went,but when
    I was bringing home stray women,my mother had become
    reinvolved, with the Roman Catholic church again,so it must have made, some
    kind of impression on her! All of her friends lived in the same neighborhood.
    One of her friend's husband, hit on me too, the scumbag!
    Plus the fact that I was drinking then,and I was only 16.
    The only bars that would let me in were,the "River Queen,a gay bar,and some lesbian bar,whose name I can't remember but I liked, because they had a pool table, and "Humpin' Hannah's" in Milwaukee,Wi.
    I always had a great time, in the River Queen,because they played music to dance to,unlike Hannahs which was a rock club,where bands came to play.
    Anyway I laughed in her friends faces when, they told my mother that they thought, I was being corrupted by homos!
    I cussed them out,and told them to take care of their own houses, and husbands.I told the one, Laura Preem,how her husband took me in the local bar, and tried to seduce me,she was very upset,but blamed me.
    cigarbabe:saevil:
     
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    does that include parking two or three block away from the gay bath house?
     
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    ...or better yet being dropped off two or three blocks from the bath house.
     
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    Since i was never "in", really, coming out was pretty painless and quick. It was all said and done by the beginning of my senior year in High School, in one of Boston's inner suburbs, in 1977.
     
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    i am still paranoid about it :redface:
     
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    Not out, probably never will.

    Massive paranoia, lol
     
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    In my case, it wasn't paranoia about being found out. It was fear that my friendships would change for the worse. That was definitely not the case. My friendships improved. Bear in mind, this was 1976.
    Dave
     
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