I have tried to fit into the gay culture club but it just seems to be the same old same old. I wouldn't ever say I'm proud to be gay. It's what happened and I accept it for what it is (although I do sometimes sleep with women). Things I CAN be proud of are the actual choices I've made in my life - at least the good choices. Pride should come from accomplishment ... not from luck of the draw. I guess I see the Pride Parade as more of a large gay party or Mardis Gras on poppers and not so much as a celebration of accomplishment. In the earlier decades it was centered on politics and exposure (the descent kind) to allow same sex partners to congregate and have sex without breaking the law. I'm probably going to get lambasted for saying this but I really do believe there are 2 different gay cultures ... one that strives to promote the stereotypical lisping swisher, gym-buffed, popper-sniffing, Gucci-wearing tart ... and one that strives to fit in with the masses and not base friendships and lifestyles on one faction of society - never hurts to branch out a bit.
I'm sorry, darling. Was my post too long? Or did you just not process it because it conforms too closely to you stereotype to not bother responding?
There are ultimately two ways of looking at Gay Pride, with "pride" being the operative word.
Some see the opposite of "pride" as being "humility". This is certainly not the concept of pride that has fostered parades and celebrations since 1970, when Boston recognized the first anniversary of the Stonewall Riots with a political demonstration honoring the first act of homosexual demonstration of civil disobedience on a grand scale.
There was nothing "humble" about the Stonewall Riots, nor anything "humble" in marking its first anniversary. It was a purely political event, and quite in-your-face, thank you very much.
Others see the opposite of "pride" as "shame", which is how I choose to see it. No, there is no great "accomplishment" in having been born gay: it's a happenstance of genetics, as I believe.
HOWEVER: there is a HUGE accomplishment in coming out, recognizing, and ultimately celebrating one's gayness. Refusing to acknowledge "shame" as an aspect on one's self-image is hugely important, especially in the full glare of the withering faces of the majority.
Of much greater importance, in my opinion, is refusing to feel shame in celebrating one's sexuality, in what ever stripe it appears.
If there's no Pride Parade celebrating other sexual minorities, it's their fault for not having organized one, not mine for enjoying ours.