Ben is a good friend of mine. He's an engineer in our studio and takes care of all of the high tech equipment. He knows more about computers than I'll ever want to know, but he also keeps our boards squeaky clean and sparked just right. He's also a major geek, and I mean that in the best way possible. It's apparent that his interpersonal skills are lacking and his only social life is when we invite him out for a drink. Or so we thought. Ben came to the studio last week with a woman. Yes, everyone there did a double-take. At first he introduced her as his friend, then she looked at him and poked him in the arm and he immediately corrected himself - fiancee, he meant fiancee. I tried to hide my surprise and offered them both my congratulations. OK, a little about her, and that's all I can write about her is just a little, because all I've got to go on is first impressions and the little bit I've talked to her and the little bit I talked to Ben today. She looks like she used to be a woman who liked to have fun. She's divorced and has three children. The first two are from her ex-husband. The third has unknown paternal origins. Children are 2 to 6. She's a major flirt, even on Ben's arm. I don't think Ben's oblivious to her outward signs, but he's really not equipped to handle it either. He usually just stands there with a grin and chuckles a little bit. I've never seen Ben with a woman before, and while I'm happy that he is searching for companionship, I am worried what the outcome may be. And I'm hoping I'm all wrong. They met online in a chat room. They didn't say what kind of chat room, in fact, they made a point of not saying. I've gathered that he proposed online. I don't know if this is the first time they've met in person, but Ben's never been out of the state, and I've never seen her before. But I'm not Ben's keeper, so all of this could be pure conjecture. It kind of reminds me of the brother in Napoleon Dynamite. She left over the weekend, and Ben is back to normal again. For a few days he was not the same person. He was distracted and off his game. I'm thinking he got laid and it messed with his mind, but that would be a good thing. Now, my question is not what to do, because I know what to do - nothing. I'm not going to say anything to Ben or warn him in any way. He's 28, by the way, so he is an adult. What I want to know is if some women of this type are looking for someone of Ben's type. She's had all of her fun, she's tired of the wild side, now she'll find a milktoast and settle down to a decent life. Again, all in my head, but is it logical? Will she really settle down? Will she get tired of being boring? I'm hoping for the best for Ben. He deserves it. Is he safe?