Gender roles in relationships

if there was no middle-ground or equality to be had in the relationship ...

  • i would prefer to be with a 'dominant' woman

    Votes: 7 21.9%
  • i would prefer to be with a 'submissive' woman

    Votes: 25 78.1%

  • Total voters
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just going to keep it simple

have you ever or could you see yourself being with a woman who 'dominated' your relationship (she wore 'the pants' in the relationship)?

did it make you uncomfortable or feel any less of a 'man' (if you haven't been in such a relationship, would you feel any less of a 'man')?
 

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just going to keep it simple

have you ever or could you see yourself being with a woman who 'dominated' your relationship (she wore 'the pants' in the relationship)?

did it make you uncomfortable or feel any less of a 'man' (if you haven't been in such a relationship, would you feel any less of a 'man')?

Being honest....I could take it. I was in a situation with a girl who was slowly but surely inching towards becoming the dominating type...and it honestly made me feel uncomfortable. Not that I expect women to be barefoot in the kitchen havin' babies...no. But don't attempt to emasculate me either.
 

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I like to be the dominant one overall, but I want a women who can challenge me and is independent. So I don't exactly want an overly passive one either.

Female empowerment is very important to me so long as its equal.
 

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I don't know. Women I've been in relationships with have tended toward dominant, so I don't know what life is like with a submissive woman. I might like it. I don't like to be "dominated," but I'm also very laid back about most things, which means it takes a dominant woman to get my attention.
 

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just going to keep it simple

have you ever or could you see yourself being with a woman who 'dominated' your relationship (she wore 'the pants' in the relationship)?

did it make you uncomfortable or feel any less of a 'man' (if you haven't been in such a relationship, would you feel any less of a 'man')?

I think you'd need to define what makes for a dominant woman and what makes for a submissive one before I could answer.

I have my own understanding of the terms, but it might differ from the way you see them.
 
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If her feet are firmly planted on the sides of me, her ass cheeks banging my thighs and she is riding then she is in charge; if her knees are over my shoulders and I am balls deep, I am in charge.

Any other time we are equal partners playing to our strengths.

Pretty simple.
 

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While I refuse to be dominated by anyone, the women who have driven me wild were always those who also refused to be dominated by anyone. When you're strong inside, you really don't feel the need to dominate somebody else--only the insecure do that. Passion with a strong, intense, partner who knows what she wants is always incredible.
 

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Submissive woman. Just the way I want things to be in my family, of course I will listen women but its not their place to have the last word.
 

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When you're strong inside, you really don't feel the need to dominate somebody else--only the insecure do that.


Knock it off Dr. Phil.

While I'm usually the aggressive one, my gf and I get off on taking turns dominating each other..I love it when, without warning, she's all the sudden acting like a dominatrix type. And I know she get's off on being dominated because she'll take on the lil miss submissive role.
 

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i love a confident woman that can take control and even guide me in various situations in life, but i wouldn't want to be dominated and bossed around all through life. i'm fairly passive and easy-going for a guy, but i can't imagine anybody wanting to be 'dominated' long-term in their relationship, be it male or female
 

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just going to keep it simple

have you ever or could you see yourself being with a woman who 'dominated' your relationship (she wore 'the pants' in the relationship)?

did it make you uncomfortable or feel any less of a 'man' (if you haven't been in such a relationship, would you feel any less of a 'man')?

Dominating is synonomous with exercising control over someone. So you're asking if I could see myself being with a controlling woman?

Been there, done that, prefer not to drive down that road again.