I wonder whether in many respects we have promoted gender at the expense individuality.
I also wonder whether this leads to the generalisations that ultimately harm the individual because those they encounter treat them as the generalised gender rather than the individual.
I finally wonder whether the haven of the generalised gender ultimately restricts the individual.
Vague! Lol. Personally, I don't tell anyone my age, my orientation, or my occupations IRL.
I hate people trying to box you & define you.
I always ask people, "so what do you like to do?". It's a far more interesting & genuine conversation, though of course, not discussing age/job/car/house does irritate people who have an innate need to measure themselves, especially those god awful networking oiks.
Anyone who's genuinely interested in you IRL will find out anyway, because you'll leak the information out, & they'll pass through your wider circle anyway. Sod smalltalk.
gender shmender.
i'm a gender blender :biggrin:
:biggrin1: Best avatar in the LPSG world too. I've gotta find the T shirt.
generalizing is a slippery slope. You mean generalizing about gender? That's potentially hurtful. My ex used to do that. He'd go on about 'you women' this or that, and ignore the woman he was addressing, namely me, entirely. Especially if I didn't bear out his hypothesis, whatever it might have been.
When men do that - they actually just mean you!!:wink:
When women have done that - they generally have just meant me!