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We all can tell that shooting others down by making generalizations about their particular group regarding an unknown quality about them specifically is a sign of one's own insecurity in the matter.
But, it seems that making positive generalizations about one's own group regarding certain qualities, unless contributing to a strictly objective discussion, where valid evidence is required to make it such, is most frequently used to publicly associate one's self with the generalization when one knows they lack the said qualities.
Of course, an appropriate example is penis size, although these compensating generalizations are made for all qualities in life. My past girlfriend, as well as my current one, said that the only black guys they were with or only saw that ever bragged about how black guys are assumed to be larger were either small or medium in size themselves.
Whites are guilty of this tactic as well, of course. Although they seem to break it down to their specific national heritage, namely French and Italian.
I'm the biggest either of my girlfriends have ever seen, so I have no worries about this issue, but the presence of these stereotypes has always bothered me, as it would seem that if women bought into these stereotypes, they would underestimate their potential sexual satisfaction with me in a relationship, hence lessening my chance to get with a girl.
So, my question is, women, do you pick up on the fact that men who brag about the size of their penis based on their race or nationality, or anything else based some sort of arbitrary category with which they are associated is a sign that they lack those specific qualities? Also, is it clear that guys who don't brag are more secure and more likely possess these qualities, when they specifically come up, than those who do?
I'd appreciate your input, ladies. Thank you.
But, it seems that making positive generalizations about one's own group regarding certain qualities, unless contributing to a strictly objective discussion, where valid evidence is required to make it such, is most frequently used to publicly associate one's self with the generalization when one knows they lack the said qualities.
Of course, an appropriate example is penis size, although these compensating generalizations are made for all qualities in life. My past girlfriend, as well as my current one, said that the only black guys they were with or only saw that ever bragged about how black guys are assumed to be larger were either small or medium in size themselves.
Whites are guilty of this tactic as well, of course. Although they seem to break it down to their specific national heritage, namely French and Italian.
I'm the biggest either of my girlfriends have ever seen, so I have no worries about this issue, but the presence of these stereotypes has always bothered me, as it would seem that if women bought into these stereotypes, they would underestimate their potential sexual satisfaction with me in a relationship, hence lessening my chance to get with a girl.
So, my question is, women, do you pick up on the fact that men who brag about the size of their penis based on their race or nationality, or anything else based some sort of arbitrary category with which they are associated is a sign that they lack those specific qualities? Also, is it clear that guys who don't brag are more secure and more likely possess these qualities, when they specifically come up, than those who do?
I'd appreciate your input, ladies. Thank you.
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