Gentle or rough.. how did you learn to fuck someone?

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I was a virgin until sophomore year in college. That would have made me 20. That first time was an experience in and of itself.* Upon penetration I was very gentle because I was so excited. As a matter of fact I doubt that I last 10 strokes. Subsequently after marriage, about 2 years later, I knew that because of my size and her being a virgin I had to be gentle. During those years of marriage action varied from slow, gentle to fast, deep and rough. I had to be careful because of hitting her cervix. She only climaxed through clitoral contact. We had sex nearly every day for the 36 years before she passed. Second marriage was quite different. Again sex was nearly everyday, and sometimes several times a day. She was capable of vaginal climaxing. She liked it slow..deep, fast..deep, withdraw..partially in, repeat over and over. When she climaxed she liked fast, deep penetration or slow, deep penetration and me holding deep and pulsing my cock as she climaxed. We divorced. I acted upon hidden feelings as I figured from an early age that I was indeed bisexual. At this time I became involved with male and female sexual contact. My methods have changed over the years. Presently I see members of both genders. My technique varies with the individual as well as times with the same person. One woman I have been with many times over the past two years has often commented how she enjoys my variety of technique. Many times she has commented how she greatly enjoys everything I do. She is multiorgasmic and can cum with just penetration of the glans. Recently I met a 59ish man who is also multiorgasmic. He likes it gently to very rough. I have learned that my body also likes the variety deep, fast, shallow, slow. Everything is incredibly fantastic. And I might add that I am 86 years old. I love sex and having it often.

* I have described the scenario of my first time elsewhere here in LPSG.
 

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My first fuck was a stranger that wanted it hard. My gf on our first fuck literally pulled my ass toward her to pound her. I kept banging harder and harder, so that our pubic bones ached after. She was like “ouch. But a nice ouch”. She was like maybe we won’t go so hard next time. Then again maybe we will
 
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I lost my virginity to a USAF sergeant. He entered my body slowly, inch by inch, and was considerate to my feelings and age till he was eventually well-lubed, he was fully inserted. The first time wasn't a great experience but, the second fuck a different matter, and I always prefer a slow steady fuck to a bang bang cum and go.
 

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My initation into sex was performed on me by an older neighbor girl who knew what she was doing. Unfortunately I did not, she was totally in charge of everything how, the rhythm, the position etc.

Never really liked rough sex although at times I do like to be in charge and can be aggressive in my drive but I have found be slow, gentle and learning how to read my partner(s) has made sex for both of more enjoyable. I have had the pleasure of screamers, squirters and physical partners. Let face it I think you need to be flexible depending on your lovers and their needs. Sometimes it just best to let her take charge…
 
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I was the consummate lover when I was younger and would always take it slow and easy. In part, because I didn't think to carry lube and it was a slower process for a girl to acclimate to my cock.

As I got a bit older and much more experienced, I became far more dominant and as time continued, I became even more intense - I'm sure Rocco would give me a tip of the hat for how intense I go at it.

I always make the girl orgasm several times before I finish and while I have no empirical evidence, I'm fairly certain there are dozens if not 100+ women still fantasizing about a life-altering fuck and how they babbled afterward or shook uncontrollably from an orgasm of a lifetime and quite a few who actually squirted from getting their cul-de-sac stretched.

So, while I'm far more intense and dominant, it's all about giving pleasure.
 
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When I lost my virginity at 20. What I noticed was the guy liked that I was gentle and sensual. Though I was the bottom. Kiss, touch, body and eye contact. So it stuck with me. Give them an experience. Now many men want me to be rough and demanding but alas, that is not me.
 

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When I lost my virginity at 20. What I noticed was the guy liked that I was gentle and sensual. Though I was the bottom. Kiss, touch, body and eye contact. So it stuck with me. Give them an experience. Now many men want me to be rough and demanding but alas, that is not me.
Me neither I not fan of it be rough and painful
 
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it depends on the person I an fucking ir having passonate sex with, My fwb Noah he likes it rough he likes to be held down and dominated. he likes me to slam my penis into his hole and pump away then there is Jakub he is passonate like Nance the like slow and lovemaking gentle sex so it depends on who is on the receiver end
 

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When I lost my virginity at 20. What I noticed was the guy liked that I was gentle and sensual. Though I was the bottom. Kiss, touch, body and eye contact. So it stuck with me. Give them an experience. Now many men want me to be rough and demanding but alas, that is not me.
Bottom or top that's the way I prefer it. One time a guy was rough, pinned against a wall with my jeans round my ankles as he spit lubed his chopper before he thrust it inside me, no finesse, no "are you ok" but shoved right in and then fast and furious, all of two minutes, till he shot his load and left me with a damaged asshole needing hospital attention. For me rough is always synonymous with being buggered.
 
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With me, it got broken down into two camps; how I learned to get fucked and to fuck.

I learned how to take a dick gently. My first couple of times with other guys was gentle. After that, it was rough all the way. Slap my ass, pull my hair, and the rest.

I learned how to fuck rough. First guy I topped liked being pushed around by bigger guys. I later learned how to fuck a guy gently.

20 year-olds learn to fuck like rabbits. 40 year-olds should know how to take their time.
 

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I’ve rarely had a bottom, and I’ve had my fair share, that was coy or ambiguous about how he wanted to be fucked. I try and take cues, both physical and verbal, from my partners and try to give them as much or as little as they want.
 

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Bottom or top that's the way I prefer it. One time a guy was rough, pinned against a wall with my jeans round my ankles as he spit lubed his chopper before he thrust it inside me, no finesse, no "are you ok" but shoved right in and then fast and furious, all of two minutes, till he shot his load and left me with a damaged asshole needing hospital attention. For me rough is always synonymous with being buggered.
See, that's assaulting to me. I don't prefer that at all. ❤
 

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With me, it got broken down into two camps; how I learned to get fucked and to fuck.

I learned how to take a dick gently. My first couple of times with other guys was gentle. After that, it was rough all the way. Slap my ass, pull my hair, and the rest.

I learned how to fuck rough. First guy I topped liked being pushed around by bigger guys. I later learned how to fuck a guy gently.

20 year-olds learn to fuck like rabbits. 40 year-olds should know how to take their time.
I love that last sentence. As a 40 year old. I want to you and I to experience all of each other. ❤
 

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I was wondering for all guys .. gay and straight .. when learning your method and rhythm of how you penetrate/fuck someone …

did you do it gentle and got rougher as you learned more how to do it or did you start gentle and casual and remained that way .

with me if I am topping I go gentle but can get tougher if he wants all he has sdbffbbif he/she wants it harder and more assertive then I do it..

Can answer here or private message me if don’t want to mention it in this post …
So living the lifestyle with my partner, I've had sex with a number of women. And what I've learned is, both literally and figuratively...different strokes for different folks. Women have varying preferences, different positions, penetration speed and penetration angles. From my experience the vast majority of women don't like to get jackhammered by my thick dick. Certain ones like it, but they are a minority. The majority like smooth and steady pumping.... 2-3 thrusts a second.

But just as important, is the angle of penetration. And I always will ask how do you like it. What position do you like. So when I penetrate I'll pressure the area where she likes it.

My partner prefers to squat ride because she can rock back and fourth or rotate her pelvis to stimulate various areas of her vagina.
 

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Porn has definitely influenced how I have sex. I start off slow with working just the tip in. Then I slowly go deeper and deeper until I bottom out. By that time my girl is all warmed up so I then alternate between harder, softer, faster, slower, etc. I like to finish by going fast.