Getting Back Into The Groove With My Wife

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Hi all! Last night we had a pretty cool sex session and it inspired me to write. I came so hard and my cumshot was so epic it sprayed both her and MY face. Bare with me on my story below and thanks for reading in advance, I'll explain everything!

My wife has been going through full blown menopause for the last 2 years and sex has taken an extreme nose dive. Where we had been doing it at a minimum about 20 times a month (and that's mostly intercourse and one or two blowjobs mixed in) for the last 18 or so years, all of 2020 we only could have sex 6 times and a few weren't "for real" sex (like full penetration, at least 2 positions, etc.). We were trying to have sex, we wanted to make love, and were not fucking. Quite an emotional and depressing year for us both.

We were intimate and madly in love all year, we always have been insanely addicted to each other in every way, but the inability to have sex really started to wear on me. Thanks to pretty good meds (vaginal suppository) and regular dilating, she started to get it back together and began to feel good again; she was working up to take me in her again after having atrophied. After working on it for a few months, finally in August we had sex 3 times and honestly it felt better than ever before and it was extremely emotional and we cried and laughed the whole time. But things didn't work like planned and we couldn't do it again for about 15 weeks. This is when I started to have some issues.

The fear of hurting her, of her not being ready, and the orchestrated nature of attempts at love making were making me too panicked and stressed to perform for her :( I mean I'd be rock hard the whole time we made out but the second she was ready for me to penetrate her I would go limp. I was insanely excited; my heart beat like never before and I felt like I was going to have a heart attack or pass out from the excitement and nerves. My cock didn't even respond to stimulation; nothing felt good and I lost all desire to be hard let alone cum at all. I'd be left staring at my writhing, sexy wife with a very wet vagina and I couldn't get it up. This only happened a few times but I obsessed over it. What a fucking joke: I'm steel hard when I'm not about to have sex, limp noodle when faced with sliding into her. I cried one night and told her I didn't even want to try to have sex anymore because when I think about it the stress was too great and if I didn't have to worry about trying I wouldn't have so much stress. What a nightmare.

Last month, however, I did some reading and learned how common this is for guys who feel the stress of "performance" where it never was before. Mainly when men are trying to conceive with their wives (or partners). Sex, for years, is normal and easy. But to make a baby, at a particular time, and the stress involved in hoping to conceive makes some men shrivel up. Its not the meaning behind it, its just the oddity of having to be hard, right now, in this situation, to perform, that makes it hard to get hard.

Thousands of times I've been in my wife. I can't begin to speak to the variety of positions, places, times, moods, events, etc. that encompass our vast and rich sex life. And here she is, lying there, finally feeling sexy and desired, smiling, telling me its alright, she's alright, its fine, pussy wet as fuck, and I can't get hard. But when I learned I'm not alone, and its not a physical issue, it made things easier.

Four nights ago we planned a make out but not intercourse. She dilated and used a wand vibrator and I cuddled and caressed her and she felt really, really fucking good. So good. She had monumental orgasms (she's ALWAYS been a multi-O girl, dozens of Os every time we're together) and was "done" with cumming so she turned attention to me. I was hard pretty much the whole time with her and lying on my back she got between my legs to give me a BJ to finish me off. I hadn't cum in 4 days so I was more than ready. While sucking me I just started vibrating and my whole body was like a current. I just straight up asked "You want to sit on it? Are you okay trying to ride me?" She got a delicious look in her eye and grabbed the lube for me, I got it super wet, and she tried to guide it in. Didn't really work, but she stroked me and got me lubed better and BAM it popped in and she grinned and began to ride and sat down and took me all the way in. This was epic! For the last 14 or so months I could only get like 1/2 or even just 1/3 of my cock in her. Instantly, we were in the groove again. I felt like I was going to cum right away but I fought it off and enjoyed her; we rolled to our sides and cried together, and then I got on top. Looking down at our union, at her, at her pleasure and O-stricken face, I couldn't believe I was rock hard and about to cum.

Then it happened. The welling of my orgasm and semen was monstrous. I hadn't felt like my whole body was involved in cumming in a long, long time. I told her "OMG I'm going to cum and its going to be so good!" and pulled out (I cannot cum in her at ALL anymore she gets UTIs every time) to unload shots on her and the second shot was enormous and blew by her and hit the headboard and soaked the far corner of the pillow; more ropes hit her torso and breast. When I saw that jet and the resultant pulsations from it I laughed and cried and sighed so hard I thought I was going to lose consciousness!! Then this ultimate wave of relief swept over me like I hadn't ever felt before. It was so cleansing. I felt like a coffee percolator or something like that. I could see again. I felt like I didn't need to worry about sex anymore, it was back!

We both said "we're back!" and the day after was wonderful. We had a 4 hour discussion of our past sex trysts and events, menopause, our issues and worries, etc.. Made out again that night but didn't fuck, she needed a break. But she's not experiencing any pain at all, none! No tearing, no chafing, no overstretched feeling, no burning. She came and came like the night before and then gave me a handjob while I was on my back. She pumped it hard and I started buzzing again and finally after about 10 minutes of working my cock it exploded. I don't shoot cum when on my back, if I do its pointing at my face and usually shoots onto my chest and stomach. But with her working it the other night she had me pointed to the ceiling and it actually shot up and away from me several inches, which has NEVER EVER happened before. I don't cum like that, its extremely powerful but my reflex doesn't eject it straight up like that.

Last night I faltered, I got way too nervous from excitement and when she was ready for me, I wasn't. I rubbed my cock on her vulva and she loves that, and I said what the H and pushed it in while about 40% hard. Somehow I can fuck her with my flaccid penis and she loves it. She also loves feeling me get fully hard while in her, and its fun stuff. So that's what happened and we went at it me on top the whole time and she was spinning and getting off and when my O approached I pulled out while still leaning over her slightly the first shot flew out, split mid air, and half went right to my face! Splashed my lips, how tasty!! The other half hit her hair and side of face, the rest in a pool on her neck and chest.

Three massive Os and ejaculations three nights in a row. I cum regularly (last couple weeks 2-4 times a day if I need it) and usually always shoot a little bit of cum pretty far, 3+ feet or more, one or two ropes. But after that "relief cum" and sex session I feel like my plumbing and circuitry have been renovated or something like that. Its like I'm actually cumming again, for real.

It feels soooooooo good to write about this here!!! I've been wanting to post on this and its been very hard. Its awkward and embarrassing to talk about. We are getting it back together and where I was wondering if my cock had some ED issues I realized it was all mental and she realized that some of her cues and signals weren't helping and we're getting through it together, which is actually now fun instead of stressful. I guess I can say that I have a "healthy penis" but sometimes it can feel like its not depending on the situation and mental state I'm in.

If anyone has any issues like this or has faced this in the past and has gotten over it please let me know if you want to talk about it. Y'all read my posts and know how open and honest I am and some of y'all have brought me a lot of clarity and goodness too. Thanks for reading if you made it through!