Getting called fat

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  1. MidwestGal

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    um yeah lately i am a full figured gal, i freakin hate it and as soon as my health cooperates i plan on loosing a few (50 lbs or so). But being on steroids every month or two kind of kills every effort i make. haha the steroids from the near death spider bite two weeks ago were another 20 lbs. yes my pics are current as of yesterday. i will post the spider bite pics for a few days.

    if you don't have something nice to say please just keep your comment to yourself. only reason i keep posting pics is because i know there are some men who really appreciate my pics and do think i am beautiful.

    yes, i know i have a big tits and ass i see it everyday when i put on clothes. The comments in some of the email i get of why do you post pics, please kindly keep it to yourself.
     
  2. D_Kay_Sarah_Sarah

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    Personally i dont think you are fat at all. Yes you are a larger lady, so am i so i am not stranger to the "fat" comment.. but NO you arent fat.. you have a gorgeous curvy body.

    I think alot of the men here a spoilt by the amount of beautiful ladies that post here and forget we all dont have 0% body fat, look like porn stars and fuck like rabbits.

    More pics darlin..Your a perfect example of what the average beautiful sexy woman is

     
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    You're lucious, revel in it.
     
  4. wonderland

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    There are always going to be people who feel it is necessary to put down others to make themselves feel better. Sadly you can't control what they say. Don't take their comments to heart.
     
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    ThatGal,

    I think it takes courage to see yourself as you are and accept yourself as you are, for now. I know many of the factors contributing to your weight gain have been beyond your control. I've had to take steroids a few times in the past (for asthma) and I understand the appetite increase and associated weight gain they induce. Fortunately, I've never had to be on them for more than a week to control a severe flare-up. But I know where you are.

    That said, I also used to be a compulsive overeater and dieter. I no longer am, and I can say that from the heart. Part of my getting past it was being ready to get past it, and part of it was getting my hands on the right resource for me, which was Overcoming Overeating, by Jane R. Hirschmann and Carol H. Munter. I have been at a steady 160 lbs for about 2 years now, since having read the book and really internalized what it says, being patient with the process of recovering from overeating once and for all, and having successfully modified many of the thought patterns which contributed to my diet/overeating cycle.

    I highly recommend this book to anyone who struggles with weight gain due to overeating.

    I know my current weight is above what some might consider the ideal, but part of my recovery was embracing my body and discovering the weight it wanted to be, not trying to force it into a TV/magazine mold.

    My current weight is maintainable without my having to fuss about it. I rarely get on the scale anymore, and it was funny when I recently had a Dr.'s checkup and my weight was compared to last year's: it came in at exactly the same number.

    I have not needed to diet even once in the 2 or so years since I changed my way of thinking.

    And, without dieting, I am able to maintain a body that I believe is beautiful (and evidently others on this site think so to -- thanks for the boost). Oh, and my man likes my body very much as well.

    I maintain a healthy body, exercise, meditate, and trust in my body's natural regulating mechanisms to control its size, really staying tuned in to its cues of hunger and fullness, and eating what my body really wants to eat at any given time.

    Several other books/programs preach a similar philosophy, and I had read them, but they did not give me nearly the tools I needed to overcome my problem. I am very lucky I hadn't yet given up on the concept of demand feeding and body acceptance, and that I found a book that spoke to me and made it possible to accept my body and love it.

    You can see my gallery pics, which are all of me at 160. I am encouraged that many people think I'm lovely. For years, I believed I needed to weigh 140, and would starve myself down to that weight, only to binge myself right back up again, and higher. At my heaviest ever, I weighed 180 pounds. It was difficult to look at that body and accept myself for who I was, and to trust it to find its natural weight, if I let it.

    But once I began to change my thinking habits, it was like when I first learned to ride a bike. Initially awkward and a bit scary and wobbly, but then I became ready to take the training wheels off and ride!

    My life is much fuller now that I am not so consumed with thoughts and feelings about weight and eating.

    I hope once your body's natural mechanisms are free of chemicals that alter them, you will either rely on your body (if you already know how to trust it), or seek out this book. Either way, if "being good" or impatiently trying to rush yourself down the scale by dieting has not worked for you in the past, then perhaps it's time to change the way you think.

    I love the way your body looks right now -- full, voluptuous, but I also suspect that you sense its unnaturalness...that it is not where it really wants to be and feels cumbersome because of what the steroids and associated overeating have done.

    I will also love your body when it is at its true, natural set point.

    Know that I'm here for you, and for any other woman on this board that struggles with body-image issues (weight-related or not).

    Another really good book for women with body-image issues is When Women Stop Hating Their Bodies, by the same authors. I've read that one too, and it really is true that we can live our lives far more fully and richly if we are not so preoccupied with the way our bodies look.

    I began to be more concerned with what my body can do than with how it looks, and that's why I love walking and yoga. Yoga especially gives me things to aspire to, a gentle process of unfolding and strengthening my body, nurturing my spirit at the same time.

    Anyway, sorry for the ramble. Hope some of it is relevant and can help.
     
  6. MidwestGal

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    actually, i don't eat hardly a thing and i still retain the weight. i've been so sick due to meniere's issues that i can't get out to walk right now. i fall 10-15 times a week on average and can't even drive my son to school most days lately. i see the doc about that on monday.

    But walking use to be the way i kept my weight under control. i don't even eat much on steroids i just gain a ton of fluid. i will lose it in time. it just takes time.

    Thanks for the book suggestion though.
     
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    I don't know why some people feel the need to attack others just because they don't fit what their "ideal" is. Is there any way we can get these losers banned/blocked from LPSG? Personal attacks is not what this site is about, and these twats shouldn't get to join in the fun :mad:
     
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    Your fat, im ugly, some of those other people have boring personalities and some people dont have any real friends. Theres always somthing wrong with everybody, and thats why there is always sombody who will love you for who you are, so fuck those insulting bastards, they are indeed the lowest of the low and they know it :)

    And your not realy fat, your a big girl yes, but fat? no, thats like, rolly polly circular bubble type thingy. And most men, from the guys ive talked to about girls, like a real woman with some meat on her, mmmm meat! we aint freakin vegetarians! lol.
     
  9. AndrewEndowed24

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    While I certainly think that most of your critics are losers, you don't have the right, when you act in public, to demand only positive feedback or none at all. You do have the right to respond in as wittily and nastily as you are able, you must create boundaries with your words.
     
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    I am sorry that some members are so mean spirited.....It takes a lot of courage to post pics, let alone if a woman does not fit the ideal size 0-2 body.

    Personally I don't get it, why some members feel the need to put down others if they do not fit their ideal body type.
     
  11. AlteredEgo

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    Not eating enough will cause weight gain too. I struggle with hormone issues ( I have PCOS) and along with the extremely high sex drive, fabulous muscles and beautiful deep voice, I have to accept the ridiculous appetite, insominia, and alarming weight gain.

    Weight watchers helped me get down to 160 (started at 210) and to stay there for 2 years. A recent shift in the balance of my hormones has gained me 20 pounds! I intend to fast and meditate for the next 30 days (Soon as my juicer arrives) To get a clean slate from which to start, and then go back to weight watchers for support. I need to lose 40 pounds. I expect temporary weight loss fasting (mostly water, very little fat) but I do not intend to see another birthday (March) catch me overweight. Anyway, weight watchers was the most effective method I tried with respect to long-term success. My aunt lost over 100 pounds, and my friend's mom lost 200! She has kept every ounce off for three years now.

    So, I suggest looking into a support group like weight watchers.

    And by the way, you look magnificent! Remember, you could look like Heidi Klum, and there would still be people who find it neccesarry to tell you they don't find you attractive.
     
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    Sorry that you are struggling with side effects Thatgal - the worst side effect of the web is the opportunity it gives gutless nobodies to think they have a life. Just tell them to go play with their tweasers. :wink:
     
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    Nothing but positives for pursuing a healthier lifestyle, the exercise program or whatever else should translate into better health today and in the future.
     
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    Don't lose weight!! I happen to think after seeing your hott naked pictures that you're very hott and make me very hard!! please learn to like yourself and revel in your sexy curvy body. Too skinny women like Paris Hilton have nothing to hold on to!
     
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    First: you are beautifull.
    Second: i you want to loose some pouns do it just for yourself, not for people that deserve nothing.
    Third: Ask for a specialist to make you a diet.

    A friend made a diet wich was great. He told me that it was easy to follow and what i found interesting was that he must eat 6 times on a day (following the allowed things and quantities).
    I think that the 6 times makes the diference, if you try stop eating you will end up with a terrible hunger that will finish with all the eatable things in your house.
     
  16. Mr. Snakey

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    You are a lovely full figured woman. Shame on the fool who is so mean spirited and nasty.......:cool:
     
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    Are you fucking kidding me? You must have some form of anorexia!!! you are in PERFECT shape... on what planet do you think you are overweight on? You aren't even fucking 5 lbs. overweight, you look like you live in the gym!!! I don't understand this post at all!!!! 160 lbs? You must be 5 foot 9!!! If you think you are fat, you actually NEED TO HAVE SOME BODYFAT in order to actually BE fat... your body is like a 19 year old girl's body... you CLEARLY have body image issues that have NOTHING to do with the way you look... maybe you need more mirrors or something...
     
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    Yes you are a curvaceous woman thatgal. After you look at this I hope you will be feeling much thinner:smile:

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    I feel that fat is sensous.:wink:
     
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    I agree. I'm a big guy, and have been called fat before, but I've never understood the purpose. Does it make them feel better?

    And, thatgal, you are NOT fat! You're...glorious!
     
  20. IntoxicatingToxin

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    I think it's funny when people call me fat. It totally doesn't affect me in any way, shape, or form. I just want to say, "Yeah, and you're skinny... what's your point?"
     
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